tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post2852664357543581807..comments2023-10-15T11:15:59.818-04:00Comments on The Diva's Random Thoughts: What Do You Consider Cheating?Diva's Thoughtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16177643214210147206noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-40404293073379200632008-04-03T12:37:00.000-04:002008-04-03T12:37:00.000-04:00I agree that there are degrees. Affairs of the hea...I agree that there are degrees. Affairs of the heart as well as physical all rule as cheating in my book. If you're doing or feeling something for someone else that should only be for your partner than its cheating.CC Solomonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13430554149106735210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-28986211849111426922008-04-02T19:30:00.000-04:002008-04-02T19:30:00.000-04:00Nothings cheating unless she's doing it.I couldn't...Nothings cheating unless she's doing it.<BR/><BR/>I couldn't resist.<BR/><BR/>Entertaining the idea of someone pushing up on me/her in any type of manner is cheating, even if penetration doesn't occur.Rich Fitzgeraldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02402320643799892517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-30674871535172213052008-04-02T09:48:00.000-04:002008-04-02T09:48:00.000-04:00I think any intimate contact is cheating like kiss...I think any intimate contact is cheating like kissing. Going to dinner or something like that is only cheating if they are doing it with tingly feelings rather than friends. As far as forgiving it, I am with you...it is over. My husband and I had this conversation before we started dating. We both felt the same way.Freckle Face Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13324960438835000817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-34653262765557842802008-04-01T23:33:00.000-04:002008-04-01T23:33:00.000-04:00In my opinion if he is hiding it or keeping secret...In my opinion if he is hiding it or keeping secret about whatever he's doing....then that is cheating. If he feels its not cheating, then why not include you in it? Why hide it?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-51282630425350865582008-04-01T07:36:00.000-04:002008-04-01T07:36:00.000-04:00personally, i think it's all about intent...obviou...personally, i think it's all about intent...obviously if there is kissing, hand holding and such going on there is intent...lisa q.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16685625884419877570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-1868047673830013392008-04-01T00:29:00.000-04:002008-04-01T00:29:00.000-04:00kissing or anything more intimate than that is che...kissing or anything more intimate than that is cheating and you're gone- out- no more questions... I can't stand cheaters.The Ambiguous Blobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07167553555513633437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-40476698596417593752008-03-31T20:52:00.000-04:002008-03-31T20:52:00.000-04:00I would consider anything that my partner can't do...I would consider anything that my partner can't do in front of me cheating. Especially when you partner goes to different lengths to try to hide things that's definitely cheating.LovelyBella73https://www.blogger.com/profile/17355236101146467429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-34254649311376809662008-03-31T19:46:00.000-04:002008-03-31T19:46:00.000-04:00I kind of consider cheating things that you would ...I kind of consider cheating things that you would do with someone else that you wouldn't do if your husband was around.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-61710018252708510752008-03-31T19:01:00.000-04:002008-03-31T19:01:00.000-04:00Yup....I agree. Cheating is something you wouldn'...Yup....I agree. Cheating is something you wouldn't do in front of your partner/spouse.Ann(ie)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00671535020245819924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-83574479110762419752008-03-31T17:50:00.000-04:002008-03-31T17:50:00.000-04:00I agree with Mystery-- if you're hiding it, you're...I agree with Mystery-- if you're hiding it, you're cheating. I have typed 2 full paragraphs and then deleted them-- this question is a doozy!imbeingheldhostagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00771374087307254969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-912427243343100892008-03-31T16:26:00.000-04:002008-03-31T16:26:00.000-04:00It's all cheating. The intimate conversation late...It's all cheating. The intimate conversation late at night is cheating! I mean, a lot of people will disagree with me, but if you have to hide it, and if your intentions are shady - it's cheating!!!!!!CarmenSinCityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12587202239830809100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-37216625049833761902008-03-31T15:06:00.000-04:002008-03-31T15:06:00.000-04:00I define cheating as anything you would not do or ...I define cheating as anything you would not do or say right in front of your significant other.MEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04121865529773663081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-59652844968476812792008-03-31T14:29:00.000-04:002008-03-31T14:29:00.000-04:00All of the above is cheating if you are hiding it ...All of the above is cheating if you are hiding it from your partner. <BR/><BR/>I'm with you, I would never forgive.Vihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03765245225983839101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-89344229555741548422008-03-31T08:46:00.000-04:002008-03-31T08:46:00.000-04:001, 3, and 4 area all definitely cheating. 2 depen...1, 3, and 4 area all definitely cheating. 2 depends on the intent and if it would stop if one person decided that the other person was getting the wrong idea, etc.... <BR/><BR/>Some people have said that sometimes they kiss someone on the check to say hello, and that isn't cheating, but I don't do that and get upset if anyone tries that. I don't kiss anyone unromantically expect for my mom and some other female relatives, and I probably kiss everyone's kids and pets. Kissing a man is definitely out.<BR/><BR/>There are definitely different areas of cheating that are easier to forgive. I never thought that I would forgive someone for cheating, but I never thought I would be in the position of having to think about it either. We were both very much in love after more than fifteen years, and you'd think that everyone would see that and leave us alone.<BR/><BR/>I am also in the position of having to deal with someone who thinks that being forgiven means that he's off the hook. If you can't be trusted to talk to people on the Internet, then you'll have to stay off the Internet. If someone went out with the guys and met someone, then I would think that would have to be the end of going out with the guys, etc....<BR/><BR/>You can't just ask to be forgiven and then not do anything to help the situation on your part.laughinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11999190808736700318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-50040227017235826872008-03-31T00:15:00.000-04:002008-03-31T00:15:00.000-04:00Hmmmm. Good question.Going to lunch. Not cheating....Hmmmm. Good question.<BR/><BR/>Going to lunch. Not cheating. I mean, c'mon if that were the case, since I work 99% with men and have a few good friends and mentors that are friends, I'd be sunk LOL. <BR/>Lunch ok. Dinner one on one? Not OK. <BR/><BR/>The rest? Cheating. <BR/><BR/>(and I am a duly reformed cheater pre-marriage days!!!)Pageant Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16703644358265856864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-20290502111929561082008-03-30T21:33:00.000-04:002008-03-30T21:33:00.000-04:00IF you go out with a person and you get an email f...IF you go out with a person and you get an email from someone saying that your boyfriend is getting cuddly with someone and texting them while you are at home and he doesn't tell you until you find out that is cheating.<BR/><BR/>You can have friends girl/guy but if you are doing things you wouldn't want you other half to do or you wouldn't want them to know, yes that is cheating, or if you have to doubt it. Then yes it is cheating.Adriannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01159466380188918072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-11342289299373749992008-03-30T21:07:00.000-04:002008-03-30T21:07:00.000-04:00Kissing.....definitely.....going on a "date"...def...Kissing.....definitely.....going on a "date"...definitely! Talking on the phone...pushing it!<BR/><BR/>I think there are different levels...and, for me....if my husband sleeps with another woman....that's a deal breaker! I don't know about any of the other stuff!Queen of the Mayhemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10317309061471274358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-1393505994096681132008-03-30T20:49:00.000-04:002008-03-30T20:49:00.000-04:00Well, any of those things would upset me if they w...Well, any of those things would upset me if they were done behing my back. <BR/>Personally we have a lot of friends both male and female, who my husband will go to lunch with. Sometimes, we are all together, sometimes now. <BR/>He or I will often give a friendly kiss to a friend. <BR/>But those things are all done without intimacy or deceipt. <BR/><BR/>It probably depends on the situation.Nicole Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17573744086439526817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-61827535556520840912008-03-30T19:52:00.000-04:002008-03-30T19:52:00.000-04:00I number them:1) Does holding an intimate conversa...I number them:<BR/><BR/>1) Does holding an intimate conversation on the phone with someone cheating?<BR/><BR/>2) Is simply going to lunch or dinner with someone cheating?<BR/><BR/>3) Is kissing cheating?<BR/><BR/>4) Is holding hands cheating?<BR/><BR/>----------------------<BR/><BR/>If "intimate" means lovy/sexy/flirty/romantic (and it probably does) then that I would call cheating. <BR/><BR/>I would not call lunch/dinner cheating. Unlike the other things, going to lunch/dinner is a normal thing that one might do with business associates, friends, or relatives.<BR/><BR/>The kissing and holding hands are cheating (other than the obvious "kiss hello" type of thing, as seen on Seinfeld, if anyone even does that.)dmarkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07269773990064736457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-77204996785742756912008-03-30T19:39:00.000-04:002008-03-30T19:39:00.000-04:00Anything intimate. Anything you have to hide! Anyt...Anything intimate. Anything you have to hide! Anything you wouldn't want me doing!<BR/><BR/>If you cheat....holla!!!Charihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00148087840882038446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-9593832468654191162008-03-30T18:51:00.000-04:002008-03-30T18:51:00.000-04:00I agree with B. It depends on your partner. With t...I agree with B. It depends on your partner. With that being said you have to be sure that the person you are in a relationship with has the same definition of cheating as you do. <BR/><BR/>In my eyes, holding hands, kissing, def sex is cheating. Anything intimate is cheating to me.1/3https://www.blogger.com/profile/14748609698680885203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-38842882584295459872008-03-30T17:30:00.000-04:002008-03-30T17:30:00.000-04:00I think anything that would upset you if you're ot...I think anything that would upset you if you're other half did it is cheating. Cheating is considered to be a million different things to everyone.<BR/><BR/>Kissing. Yes. Sex. Obviously Yes. Going out with someone is iffy. Are they going out with the intent of something happening or is just a friendly thing? I mean, I have tons of guy friends and I wouldn't stop hanging out or going out with them just because I have a BF, ya know?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-61242052563306252222008-03-30T14:38:00.000-04:002008-03-30T14:38:00.000-04:00I don't know, it's the degree of the action that c...I don't know, it's the degree of the action that constitutes cheating. I'm not of the thought process that everything we do is a sin, though being a good Catholic girl, I feel guilt and angst to the nth degree...it's a Catholic thing...so while my upbringing would consider it ALL cheating, my analytical mind says none of it is. I'm a puzzle wrapped in paradox. Yeah, my kids are messed up, too<BR/>SandiSandi McBridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09033518416111957858noreply@blogger.com