tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post3106110544981907111..comments2023-10-15T11:15:59.818-04:00Comments on The Diva's Random Thoughts: Maybe I'm Wrong In ThisDiva's Thoughtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16177643214210147206noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-69530466432329446972007-11-09T23:59:00.000-05:002007-11-09T23:59:00.000-05:00That gets on my last nerve. When people don't pon...That gets on my last nerve. When people don't pony up for joint parties!! ugh. She needs to contribute something and you have every right to ask, darlin!Ann(ie)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00671535020245819924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-10074626017658153242007-11-09T11:42:00.000-05:002007-11-09T11:42:00.000-05:00Damn...I was going to say address it the best way ...Damn...I was going to say address it the best way you know how b/c what was her point of being included and going along w/ you and "mom" if she had no intention on helping w/ the purchases?? Did she think y'all needed company?? But what SCC said made much more sense..I guess u do get more w/ sugar than vinegar..lol.Ms.Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07022940530360142375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-79516298593996941642007-11-08T16:06:00.000-05:002007-11-08T16:06:00.000-05:00I would call her and thank her for assisting with ...I would call her and thank her for assisting with the shower. I would nicely state that you were a bit taken back the other day when purchasing the baby shower gifts. I would mention that maybe there was a lack of communication.<BR/><BR/>However it was your impression that everyone was chipping in for this event. I would express that if she is unable to financially if maybe she could assist with cleaning up and setting up, perhaps helping you cook and clean for this event...in so many words to be your bitch before the shower. Have her run errands etc.<BR/><BR/>Oh and since you are cooking for this shower, so there is no miscommunication how can I get you to cook for mine? Well when I am pregnant I guess, or you could cook for me now, either way is okay for me.Adriannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01159466380188918072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-51542672365065567162007-11-07T15:21:00.000-05:002007-11-07T15:21:00.000-05:00I hate stuff like that. And I'm always too wimpy ...I hate stuff like that. And I'm always too wimpy to say something. Hope you're braver than I am!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-43413961523185647802007-11-07T09:57:00.000-05:002007-11-07T09:57:00.000-05:00I like Shorty's idea too. Put her on the spot. "I ...I like Shorty's idea too. Put her on the spot. "I know you didn't pay for any of this along the way, because you had planned to pay for the whole thing at the end. Here are all the receipts for what we bought. A check would be great? We can split it out later. Thanks, A.J. You are such a great friend."dmarkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07269773990064736457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-21038981502205427642007-11-06T18:35:00.000-05:002007-11-06T18:35:00.000-05:00I would tell her, and explain to her that if she d...I would tell her, and explain to her that if she didn't contribute, she wouldn't be a co host--She wouldn't get any glory! I hate that shit.GurlNexxDoorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14483447227485825377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-31053106753221892152007-11-06T13:54:00.000-05:002007-11-06T13:54:00.000-05:00We have a phrase for that here in Oz - ``long pock...We have a phrase for that here in Oz - ``long pockets, short hands''!david mcmahonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009095220051075552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-21355157071938363632007-11-06T11:05:00.000-05:002007-11-06T11:05:00.000-05:00personally, i would have said something. but, mayb...personally, i would have said something. but, maybe that's why i don't have any friends anymore!!! j/kminijonbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13310827608075981019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-83454633312133417312007-11-06T07:35:00.000-05:002007-11-06T07:35:00.000-05:00i'd damn sure send her a bill! the nerve of some p...i'd damn sure send her a bill! the nerve of some people! sheesh!lisa q.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16685625884419877570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-41374319409661999922007-11-06T01:57:00.000-05:002007-11-06T01:57:00.000-05:00I was ALMOST in a situation very similar to this o...I was ALMOST in a situation very similar to this one. I nipped it in the bud BEFORE hand. Only because I hate mixing friends and family when it comes to money. <BR/><BR/>You mentioned that you planned the outing 2 weeks prior but, did you discuss ahead of time how everything was going to be handled and paid for?<BR/><BR/>Not that I'm making excuses for missy or anything but, I've learned that some people need to be told in plain English what their part will be in the entire plan.<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I wouldn't wait another minute, I would definitely get on the phone and give it to her straight with no chaser.<BR/><BR/>Good luck. Please! let us know how it all turned out.*Tanyetta*https://www.blogger.com/profile/14339189484151758472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-86569158411590864082007-11-05T23:44:00.000-05:002007-11-05T23:44:00.000-05:00Direct but gentle conversation is needed ASAP. Cou...Direct but gentle conversation is needed ASAP. Could be she's clueless. Could be she talked with "mom" about some financial problem. But you deserve to be clued in.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-88294719305513491372007-11-05T23:25:00.000-05:002007-11-05T23:25:00.000-05:00Oh man you really need to say something to her. Sh...Oh man you really need to say something to her. She needs to know that your assumption was you were splitting it all three-ways to keep the individual costs down.<BR/><BR/>Maybe just say to her, "So I'm leaving you to pick up the tab for the food and drinks then?"<BR/><BR/>Some people aren't really sure what you expect of them, maybe she just hasn't realised she was expected to contribute financially?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-51457735773303761022007-11-05T15:17:00.000-05:002007-11-05T15:17:00.000-05:00i think shorty's idea is a classic. Do that. Do ...i think shorty's idea is a classic. Do that. Do that...then tell us all how it went down.<BR/><BR/>lol...sorry for the frustration, but um...just tell her it's pissing you off and don't let her participate...hell she can't come. I'll call her up for you!<BR/><BR/>smile!dc_speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06357394041753433558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-69563719636431564522007-11-05T14:18:00.000-05:002007-11-05T14:18:00.000-05:00I hate people like that! Yup. If I were you I'd t...I hate people like that! <BR/><BR/>Yup. If I were you I'd total up what you & your mom have spent so far and ask her for AT LEAST that amount to contribute towards the food!*~*Cece*~*https://www.blogger.com/profile/00373628439213049604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-8343093186355838962007-11-05T13:44:00.000-05:002007-11-05T13:44:00.000-05:00Oh my god! I would be pissed too! What is she th...Oh my god! I would be pissed too! What is she thinking???? How could she not even say anything like "i'm broke this week, but i'll get the next set of stuff or I'll pay your back" - something! To not even mention it is TACKY! I would be pissed too.CarmenSinCityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12587202239830809100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-3421455557260993352007-11-05T13:05:00.000-05:002007-11-05T13:05:00.000-05:00Make sure you attach a thank you card to it, with ...Make sure you attach a thank you card to it, with a bill for that as well : )shortyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09646106228386001678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-40479164708622333712007-11-05T13:04:00.000-05:002007-11-05T13:04:00.000-05:00You could wrap up a box full of the receipts and o...You could wrap up a box full of the receipts and other charges from expenses and present it to her at the shower for her to open in front of all those other women. <BR/><BR/>Call her out!shortyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09646106228386001678noreply@blogger.com