tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post3995198744781848530..comments2023-10-15T11:15:59.818-04:00Comments on The Diva's Random Thoughts: Do You Have An Ex You Are Not Over?Diva's Thoughtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16177643214210147206noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-16522034759044594022010-03-07T16:03:32.553-05:002010-03-07T16:03:32.553-05:00That is a hard one.. My boyfriend has mention his ...That is a hard one.. My boyfriend has mention his past girlfriends and I am not bothered by it...I have no reason too...I have a key to his house and I don't go through his things because I allow him his privacy...He seems to be true to his word and never tries and give me excuses for things...So, if he has mementos of past relationships, pictures...I don't see any problem with him keeping them. I like him for who he is and excepting him means excepting that he has a past...as long as he makes me feel special I don't mind...Just telling it like it ishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04090846611105025162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-26071371552850204402010-03-05T22:32:43.829-05:002010-03-05T22:32:43.829-05:00hey I have given you a blog award!hey I have given you a blog award!Tonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15816260131470363977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-80135693574462178032010-03-03T20:16:50.908-05:002010-03-03T20:16:50.908-05:00It's funny you said this as one of my friends ...It's funny you said this as one of my friends on FB sent me a friend request for an old boyfriend of almost 30 years ago. YIKES!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-61902421136460715492010-03-01T10:37:42.692-05:002010-03-01T10:37:42.692-05:00oooh, yeah, good topic. I didn't hang onto the...oooh, yeah, good topic. I didn't hang onto the ex stuff, but wouldn't really mind if the hubby had (he trashed all of his things even though I told him he might want to look at it all again someday). I figure ex'es are that for a reason, no looking back. What I hold onto is the "what if's". You know, the relationship I didn't give a chance. Not that I have any memorabilia from a relationship that never was ;-)imbeingheldhostagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00771374087307254969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-58698040504627477602010-02-28T01:04:38.306-05:002010-02-28T01:04:38.306-05:00I am glad I don't.
Thanks for sharing your tho...I am glad I don't.<br />Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Anna :)myonlyphotohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07324578791902437827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-86565563273769840722010-02-25T16:57:01.300-05:002010-02-25T16:57:01.300-05:00BTW- you have a present at my page! Smooches!BTW- you have a present at my page! Smooches!The Dishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03627205006501301967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-8476983404835758532010-02-25T16:36:05.221-05:002010-02-25T16:36:05.221-05:00I have a couple of ex relationships I've been ...I have a couple of ex relationships I've been trying to process out... 'Jan'... I doubt I loved my then wife more than I loved Jan... I loved her.. I adored her... I hate to say that I worshipped her... and when it fell apart, I was so lost... it took me years to get over Jan... and Laura was beneficial in that regard, and then Laura and I fell apart... and now I'm dealing with having lost her...<br /><br />And now an old gf from high school has resurfaced... what a timely post and a group of timely questions... I can't wait to read the rest of the replies here...<br /><br />~shoes~Red Shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01919277206516592912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-51867911345210161292010-02-24T23:12:39.278-05:002010-02-24T23:12:39.278-05:00Oh so complicated! I started to respond and it wa...Oh so complicated! I started to respond and it was taking so long to say it all. But nobody should do anything that they don't want to do.Renaissance Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16958178544581250567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-13931864047694229182010-02-24T16:32:17.329-05:002010-02-24T16:32:17.329-05:00If the new guy would like for me to get rid of my ...If the new guy would like for me to get rid of my diamond studs I got from an ex, he needs to replace them with a bigger carat. Only then will I donate the current pair. <br /><br />For pictures, they can keep them as long as they are not like you said, their wallpaper on their phone or anywhere openly out in their home.Confessions of a Single Black Womanhttp://confessionofasingleblackwoman.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-87613463916784607992010-02-24T12:46:15.991-05:002010-02-24T12:46:15.991-05:00I hadn't really thought of it until I read you...I hadn't really thought of it until I read your post. I don't have anything from past relationships around, no photos no nothing. I guess I'm the type who makes a clean break, no memories kicking around, all mementos kicked to the curb along with the failed relationship.<br /><br />My husband was married before and has 4 children from that relationship. They were together for 23 years and there are tons of photo albums around with the old family. I don't care, don't even give it any thought. I love his kids (who are all grown up now) and I fully expect their mom to be in the photos while they were growing up. It helps that she is remarried as well and has no communication with my hubby :)Menopausal New Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01427085574473513923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-2729917003462936522010-02-24T12:17:50.136-05:002010-02-24T12:17:50.136-05:00I have no pictures of my ex...but my mom does. It ...I have no pictures of my ex...but my mom does. It use to bother me, but now I realize he was part of the family.<br /><br />Hugs and Mocha,<br />SteshaSteshahttp://www.hotchocolatecaramelmocha.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-30885462394587161342010-02-24T11:40:52.496-05:002010-02-24T11:40:52.496-05:00For some reason I've kept all my old cards fro...For some reason I've kept all my old cards from ex's. I haven't kept pictures but cards are so meaningful to me. My current boyfriends would get mad but I'd explain it's not that I want my ex back but the cards have so much meaning. IDK how to explain it. I've said when I get married I'll throw away all the old mementos.ByHisGraceOnlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09820081595404946446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-605325098959031402010-02-24T07:41:17.178-05:002010-02-24T07:41:17.178-05:00See? That's why I don't give girls anythin...See? That's why I don't give girls anything. Less pressure for the next relationship.<br /><br />I'm thoughtful like that.Moooooog35https://www.blogger.com/profile/13283153659252782869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-72381911289749785702010-02-24T01:18:26.717-05:002010-02-24T01:18:26.717-05:00I guess it is a little different when thinking abo...I guess it is a little different when thinking about the father of my kids. Clearly, I can't trash all of the photos and items that he gave me. It just wouldn't be fair to the kids. Now, I kind of prefer to date dads so I would expect them to keep things from their kids' moms too. <br /><br />In general, I tend to keep those kinds of things tucked away. I am not a jealous person, so as long as their wasn't something weird going on, I'd be fine with it.Freckle Face Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13324960438835000817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-8181090029901240812010-02-23T23:16:22.734-05:002010-02-23T23:16:22.734-05:00Agreed. People don't come out of a vacuum. W...Agreed. People don't come out of a vacuum. We want to keep small remembrances that tie us to past good times. But within reason ... 1 or 2 things.Noellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10736409667369652381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-16610562188433003882010-02-23T19:26:19.991-05:002010-02-23T19:26:19.991-05:00I keep my pictures...im sorry u dont throw those a...I keep my pictures...im sorry u dont throw those away. And momentos i keep hidden but if my new love is insecure...oh well must not be the man for me.1/3https://www.blogger.com/profile/14748609698680885203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-27401748023286734992010-02-23T18:47:30.084-05:002010-02-23T18:47:30.084-05:00I think that sometimes there are guys that you bre...I think that sometimes there are guys that you break up with, not because they are bad guys, but just because the timing is bad and your plans just don't match up. Maybe you should keep stuff from those guys, just in case you get back together.<br /><br />And then there is the stuff that is just nice, like if you got a gold necklace for your birthday. You still like the necklace even after the guy is gone. Are you supposed to get rid of it? It was a birthday present.<br /><br />And then there are pictures that have the ex in them, but also other friends. You want to keep the pictures because of the other friends. Are you supposed to act like an eighth grader and cut out the ex?<br /><br />I think that even after we are long married to someone else, a lot of women still have these little boxes of things that remind them of other guys. Only after you're married you don't look at the box much anymore. It is burried away somewhere, and you never look at again until your daughter or niece is crying that the only boy she'll ever love has dumped her. And then you get the box out and tell her that it probably isn't true.laughinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11999190808736700318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-89310400509953262462010-02-23T12:13:21.590-05:002010-02-23T12:13:21.590-05:00I don't have anything left from my ex except p...I don't have anything left from my ex except pictures filed somewhere on my computer.<br /><br />I don't think about past men anymore.Senoritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13075972193214414769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-31310411835149896972010-02-23T12:06:45.445-05:002010-02-23T12:06:45.445-05:00I do not have any sentimental items left from exes...I do not have any sentimental items left from exes. I did for awhile, but after The Husband and I moved in together a 100 million years ago I slowly threw them all away. I find it useless to think of the past and the what ifs. I am here, and I am pretty happy with that!The Dishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03627205006501301967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-12569585207139687802010-02-23T10:48:46.593-05:002010-02-23T10:48:46.593-05:00Someone insisting that things from your past be to...Someone insisting that things from your past be tossed out, it not just insecure but also very controlling. And those two commodities do not bode well in a relationship! <br />I never toss out photos -unless they are poor quality and blurry, etc. And cards/letters -keep 'em all!Jenihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16425701332785470116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-23557531212536729682010-02-23T10:37:20.721-05:002010-02-23T10:37:20.721-05:00I wouldn't dispose of memories with an ex if i...I wouldn't dispose of memories with an ex if it wasn't my choice. That is part of my life and I am not giving it up for anyone. I am hopeful that the new guy wouldn't ask me to. I have pictures of exes here and there in my house - in collage frame or in group shots with other friends. I don't stare at them longingly or lustfully, but they bring back good memories.<br /><br />As for stuff - I get rid of it when I feel comfortable. I recently threw out love letters and cards from an ex. I found them and had no desire to read them so I chucked them. I gave my sister in law a diamond solitaire that another ex gave me because it matched a dress she was wearing and I wasn't going to wear it anymore. <br /><br />But someone pushing me to do it would just make me resist.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14978375225313974459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-55974492243720619742010-02-23T10:04:20.018-05:002010-02-23T10:04:20.018-05:00I have thrown all my pictures away of old relation...I have thrown all my pictures away of old relationships. The only pictures I own of an ex are those of my ex husband and that is for the sake of the children. <br /><br />I once had a guy who I was seeing ask me to throw away his photos (which I keep in albums that I rarely look at in a box for the children) I was like you are not throwing away my children's pictures. And he didn't last much longer . . the jealousy was just one issue :)Sharonhttp://www.queeninheels.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-6136978251379542010-02-23T09:49:47.381-05:002010-02-23T09:49:47.381-05:00I TOTALLY agree with you on this! I have pics of ...I TOTALLY agree with you on this! I have pics of all my ex's that meant something to me...My exhusband had a problem but he was insecure...One of the reasons that he is an ex :)JStarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17099140114891597338noreply@blogger.com