tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post8347622954386526730..comments2023-10-15T11:15:59.818-04:00Comments on The Diva's Random Thoughts: Another Year Is HereDiva's Thoughtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16177643214210147206noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-75428890818025850982008-01-03T20:47:00.000-05:002008-01-03T20:47:00.000-05:00Give him 30 days notice in writing that he needs t...Give him 30 days notice in writing that he needs to fnd alternate arrangements. At the end of 30 days change your locks. End of story. He is a grown man he will find some place to go when his back is against the wall.Tired of being brokehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02026029030939029254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-77604403289951455922008-01-03T15:59:00.000-05:002008-01-03T15:59:00.000-05:00That is so nice of you...HOWEVER, he can sleep on ...That is so nice of you...HOWEVER, he can sleep on that couch! lol<BR/><BR/>I have already made me list, now it is time for my action steps!!<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Happy New Year!Charihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00148087840882038446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-26544816082702217102008-01-03T07:17:00.000-05:002008-01-03T07:17:00.000-05:00I haven't read the other bajillion comments, just ...I haven't read the other bajillion comments, just wanna say, You have the strength. You have got this far.<BR/><BR/>Add to your to do list after he hauls his arse outta there.... new sheets and pillows. You will thank me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-76911987747517736022008-01-03T03:02:00.000-05:002008-01-03T03:02:00.000-05:00I'm praying for ya sis. I'm never gone through any...I'm praying for ya sis. I'm never gone through anything like that, but I'm sure it can be very hard on you. <BR/><BR/>Happy New Year, and I hope this year holds many great things for you.LovelyBella73https://www.blogger.com/profile/17355236101146467429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-92060285667087319882008-01-02T23:50:00.000-05:002008-01-02T23:50:00.000-05:00It's so hard living with the 'ex'. Been there. A...It's so hard living with the 'ex'. Been there. A huge weight lifted when that door shut b/h him. =P <BR/><BR/>I am a list freak. So I have a goal list going all the damn time. It does help me keep it all in perspective. Good luck with your goals....you'll do em!! xo. <BR/><BR/>Happy Happy NY!Ann(ie)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00671535020245819924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-43739411985806617952008-01-02T21:55:00.000-05:002008-01-02T21:55:00.000-05:00I don't make list of goals, even though I am told ...I don't make list of goals, even though I am told that if you put it on paper it is more likily to happen. I wish you all the best in your list though. The only thing I wanna do this year is get back into shape, but that is a common goal for most of the world. Wait, that is not true. I need to start doing my art work again and I want to work on getting this damn book I finish last year published.One Man’s Opinionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10369070920453105981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-57900760203695458602008-01-02T21:27:00.000-05:002008-01-02T21:27:00.000-05:00I wish you the best in 2008, sometimes life is tuf...I wish you the best in 2008, sometimes life is tuff, don't give up on the trial, stay for the blessing!!!WrkNProgresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12904777585475132338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-20477721367820020022008-01-02T21:23:00.000-05:002008-01-02T21:23:00.000-05:00I make lists pretty much all the time, but mainly ...I make lists pretty much all the time, but mainly for short-term things.<BR/><BR/>I yearly list would be an awesome idea.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08607519995282396892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-78275827550700695562008-01-02T20:36:00.000-05:002008-01-02T20:36:00.000-05:00I guess what I do at the end of the year is reflec...I guess what I do at the end of the year is reflection and goal setting more than resolutions. I've given up resolutions because they're either kept or broken. Goals can subscribe to the "Progress Not Perfection" motto.<BR/><BR/>As for the living arrangement thing, if The Analyst really is an analyst he'll respect a deadline. And a blanket while he's sleeping on that couch ;-)<BR/><BR/>All the best for you in 2008.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-46878302074766612822008-01-02T19:39:00.000-05:002008-01-02T19:39:00.000-05:00Like others have said, I hope you have a time limi...Like others have said, I hope you have a time limit on this arrangement. My ex lived with me for three months before he finally moved out after he dropped the news of wanting a divorce. <BR/><BR/>I hope you achieve your goals for 2008. Hang in there and stay strong.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10692144543529730354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-22394582675092654392008-01-02T16:45:00.000-05:002008-01-02T16:45:00.000-05:00Stay strong girl...you know whats best for you and...Stay strong girl...you know whats best for you and your mental status..but i agree with ODiva he cant be taking his sweet time..that will only make it harder on you...the sooner the better mama..good luck with life and love this year.Ms.Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07022940530360142375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-14585722052944762572008-01-02T13:42:00.000-05:002008-01-02T13:42:00.000-05:00I admire you your word means a lot. When life seem...I admire you your word means a lot. When life seems to get me down I always relish in this saying, “This to shall pass.” I feel strength and wisdom when I say it because I believe it. I know you are very strong and this must be hard. I do promise you this too shall pass and you will learn more about yourself in this process. It’s weird when you face certain struggles in life you become stronger and you find the strength that you never thought you had. <BR/><BR/>I would want him out as well, just remember its your house and you can put him on <BR/>craiglist.com to start look now for a new place. You were very vague, when he finds something. See I would say, your ass needs to be out as of….. I would give a timeline. But when the heart is involved it’s hard. It is also especially easy to give advice when you are not walking in the other person’s shoes.<BR/><BR/>So with that I will say I am here for you and I know you can get through this!!!!Adriannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01159466380188918072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-49472291081824224402008-01-02T13:20:00.000-05:002008-01-02T13:20:00.000-05:00I'm praying for your patience, your broken spirit ...I'm praying for your patience, your broken spirit and an end to your tough situation. Continue to hold on and know that you got a gang of folks in blogland rooting for you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-81144083740386758342008-01-02T12:43:00.000-05:002008-01-02T12:43:00.000-05:00ugh...that is sooo uncomfortable! you're very kin...ugh...that is sooo uncomfortable! you're very kind for giving him time to find living quarters...just don't let it be indefinite otherwise your healing will never begin...lisa q.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16685625884419877570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-83462543283454242352008-01-02T12:11:00.000-05:002008-01-02T12:11:00.000-05:00he'll get the wrong message until he's sleeping on...he'll get the wrong message until he's sleeping on the couch. he needs to wake up and do that.minijonbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13310827608075981019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-22093771415896496772008-01-02T11:56:00.000-05:002008-01-02T11:56:00.000-05:00oh I don't know how you can do that, letting him s...oh I don't know how you can do that, letting him stay. I hope you are circling the accommodation adds and leaving it for him to see!Vihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03765245225983839101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-4237286718919582812008-01-02T11:35:00.000-05:002008-01-02T11:35:00.000-05:00I hope there is some limit on the time he can stay...I hope there is some limit on the time he can stay while he looks for something? With situations like that, if there is no deadline or reason to find anything, there is less incentive. You don't want it to devolve to something like "You, Me, and Dupree"... or more like "Me and Dupree" (just two). Easy for me to say when I don't know the guy, right?<BR/><BR/>I still have last years' goals to work on; not making new ones.dmarkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07269773990064736457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-78962487501298275872008-01-02T11:32:00.000-05:002008-01-02T11:32:00.000-05:00Happy New Girl!!! As you write that list, I hope t...Happy New Girl!!! As you write that list, I hope that you get everything on it and more!!! (including getting dude out your place :).magnoliapeachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02580282345940643720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-6694210806133532612008-01-02T11:19:00.000-05:002008-01-02T11:19:00.000-05:00On resolutions, I make them every year. I spend t...On resolutions, I make them every year. I spend the week between Christmas and New Years really thinking back over the last year and thinking about what I want for the new year. I write down the big goals and then break them down into smaller goals. For example, I really want to lose 30 pounds in 2008. It is harder to do in my 40s than it was in my 20s so I broke it down to see how much I need to lose every quarter and how much every week. Then I wrote out an actual schedule in my dayplanner for when I will go to the gym (3 times a week). I don't think I have ever been quite this precise before so hopefully this year will be my year.<BR/><BR/>As for the living arrangements. If it is your place, he should respectfully sleep on the sofa. I can't imagine sleeping with someone like that.charmcitygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06332283610637664775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-79816955388692414122008-01-02T10:57:00.000-05:002008-01-02T10:57:00.000-05:00I'd give him 30 days. That's more then enough time...I'd give him 30 days. That's more then enough time to find something! <BR/><BR/>I just have one main goal for 2008 and that's to get my debt paid off.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-82582622162321336722008-01-02T10:48:00.000-05:002008-01-02T10:48:00.000-05:00Girl, I so feel you on getting him gone so you can...Girl, I so feel you on getting him gone so you can really deal and I understand you want to give him time to find some place (that's really nice of you), but try to make him understand that he shouldn't drag his friggin feet either!<BR/><BR/>Good luck with that and a Happy New Year to ya!Jazzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01186973972482369982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-27494682832385220152008-01-01T22:52:00.000-05:002008-01-01T22:52:00.000-05:00I have done that. It is hard. My ex lived with me ...I have done that. It is hard. My ex lived with me for a month before 'arrangements' were made. It was awful.<BR/><BR/>Your word is your word, and I admire you not wanting to go back on it, but boy do I know where you are coming from.<BR/><BR/>Good luck, and hopefully 2008 will be a better year.That girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01900024617618495493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-29404415889442640042008-01-01T22:50:00.000-05:002008-01-01T22:50:00.000-05:00I dont write the NY's resolutions anymore. It hasn...I dont write the NY's resolutions anymore. It hasnt work before, so I stopped doing it. <BR/>Moving on is gonna be hard, but hang in there! <BR/>Happy New year!!!Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03922129207090504251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-30037393815295456122008-01-01T22:33:00.000-05:002008-01-01T22:33:00.000-05:00Man I hope this time goes by quickly for you so th...Man I hope this time goes by quickly for you so that you can get some peace and happiness. Stay strong.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1335680391050121939.post-1190397487823007142008-01-01T22:28:00.000-05:002008-01-01T22:28:00.000-05:00HERE'S WISHING YOU ALL THE BEST FOR THE NEW YEAR!!...<B>HERE'S WISHING YOU ALL THE BEST FOR THE NEW YEAR</B>!!!<BR/><BR/>May you get everything you hope for!!Miss Snarky Pantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11029762400845095202noreply@blogger.com