A couple of days ago The Diva's Thoughts published our 2009 list for the Top 10 Sexiest Women Alive. Now it's the fella's turn. We are going to spotlight the top 10 hunks for 2009 for the third year in a row to find the sexiest man alive.

These men make our hearts flutter and give us fever so without further ado let's list these gorgeous men!

#10
Robert Pattinson

With the mania that is Twilight I could not leave off this prestigious list one of the sexiest vampires out there!

#9
Columbus Short

This up an coming hottie of the silver screen has appeared in such films as Stomp The Yard and This Christmas sends my pulse racing every time I see him.




#8
Maxwell

What can we say about this crooner. He lost his signature 'fro but the sexiness and swagger is still there.



#7
Eric Dane

This Grey's Anatomy hottie makes my heart race! I can't even look him in the eyes.



#6
James Hardy

My oh my! This NFL star for the Buffalo Bills makes me weak in the knees.



#5
Tom Brady

This New England Patriots NFL player hottie is off the market ladies as he is married to Gisele Bündchen, Ms. Victoria Secret herself. That's just to much gorgeous for one household.

#4
Idris Elba

My goodness just look at this hottie! This actor has appeared in many films through out his career but he will always be Stringer Bell to us at The Diva's Thoughts.

#3
Chris Pine

This gorgeous actor has appeared in such TV and films as CSI Miami and Star Trek. I might have to became a Trekkie if I could get next to him!



#2
Alex Rodriquez

This hot and controversial baseball player is always in the news linked to a hot woman. His woman of the month is Kate Hudson. Man he gives me fever.

#1

The sexiest man of 2009!!
Will Demps

This gorgeous football player once played for Baltimore and lastly Houston. He's half Korean and half black, over 6ft tall and just too hot to look at straight on. You have to sneak in a look at him from your peripherals. Man I swear I am going to start watching football!!

There you have it ladies and gentlemen. For previous years top 10 list click here.

Well ladies and gentlemen, it is that time of year again. It is time for The Diva's Thoughts to list our top 10 sexiest women alive for 2009 for the third year in a row. In a couple of days we will list the sexiest men but this is the time for the beautiful and sexy ladies to shine.

Without further ado here is our list for The Diva's Thoughts 2009 10 Sexiest Women Alive

#10

Shakira

What can I say about this sexy singer. Her hips don't lie and neither does her sensual on an off stage presence.

#9

Audrina Patridge (from The Hills)

There is no denying this Hill star has tremendous sex appeal.



#8

Melissa Ford (Model)

All I can say about Melissa is just look at her!

#7

Beyonce

I don't even need to say anything about Ms. Bey.


#6

Rihanna

This picture speaks for itself.



#5

Janet Jackson

Janet has always been a sexy woman but she has seriously come back this year after some very tough times and proved she still has it.



#4

Megan Fox

I know that she has had some foot in mouth situations this year but there is no denying this woman is sex appeal personified.



#3

Kim Kardashian

Here's another one that needs no explanation for being on this list.



#2

Alessandra Ambrosio (Victoria Secret model)

Just look at this woman.

#1
Roslyn Sanchez

This hot and sexy latin actress sizzles every time she is on the screen which is why she is the sexiest woman of 2009?




For previous lists, please click here.

I just received this in an email and you know me...I HAD to share. I'm a giver you know.

BTW- The top 10 sexiest women list is coming out in an hour!


1. Don't get in line asking questions about the food. 'Who made the potato salad? Is there egg in there? Are the greens fresh? Is the meat in the greens turkey or pork? Who made the macaroni and cheese? What kind of pie is that? Who made it?

Ask one question and I will punch you in your mouth, knocking out all your front teeth so you won't be able to eat anything.


2. If you can't walk or are missing any limbs, sit your ass down until someone makes your plate for you. Dinner time is not the time for you to be independent. Nibble on some damn pecans and walnuts to hold you over until someone makes you a plate.


3. If you have kids under the age of twelve, I will escort their little asses to the basement and bring their food down to them. They are not gonna tear my damn house up this year. Tell them that they are not allowed upstairs until it's time for Uncle Butch to start telling family stories about their mommas and papas. If they come upstairs for any reason except if they are bleeding to death, I will break a foot off in their asses!


4. There is going to be one prayer for Thanksgiving dinner! JUST ONE! We do not care that you are thankful that your 13 year old daughter gave birth to a healthy baby or your nephew just got out of jail. Save that talk for somebody who gives a damn. The time limit for the prayer is one minute. If you are still talking after that one minute is up, you will feel something hard come across your lips and they will be swollen for approximately 20 minutes.


5. Finish everything on your plate before you go up for seconds! If you don't, you will be cursed out and asked to stay your greedy ass home next year!


6. BRING YOUR OWN TUPPERWARE!! Don't let me catch you fixing yourself a plate in my good Tupperware knowing damn well that I will never see it again! Furthermore, if you didn't bring anything over, don't let me catch you making a plate period or there will be a misunderstanding.


7. What you came with is what you should leave with!! Do not leave my house with anything that doesn't belong to you. EVERYBODY WILL BE SUBJECTED TO A BODY SEARCH COMING AND GOING OUT OF MY DOMAIN!!!


8. Do not leave your kids so you can go hopping from house to house. This is not a DAYCARE CENTER ! There will be a kid-parent roll call every ten minutes. Any parent that is not present at the time of roll call, your child will be put outside until you come and get him or her. After 24 hours, I will call DHS on your ignorant ass!!


9. BOOK YOUR HOTEL ROOM BEFORE YOU COME INTO TOWN!! There will be no sleeping over at my house! You are to come and eat dinner and take your ass home or to your hotel room. EVERYBODY WILL GET THE HELL OUT AT 11:00 PM. You will have a 15 minute warning bell.


10. Last but not least! ONE PLATE PER PERSON!! This is not a soup kitchen. I am not trying to feed your family until Christmas dinner! You will be supervised when you fix your plate. Anything over the appropriate amount will be charged to you before you leave. There will be a cash register at the door. Thanks to Cousin Alfred and his greedy ass family, we now have a credit card machine! So VISA and MASTERCARD are now being accepted. NO FOOD STAMPS OR ACCESS CARDS YET!

OK, I am not a football fan. I don't watch it. I don't follow it. I can't tell you what a first or second down is. Hell, what is a down anyway?

With all that said I will vehemently defend and stand by my Baltimore Ravens. Those are my boys!!!

I don't tell people this but as much as I support my Ravens I have no idea who the players are on the team except for Ray Lewis. You would have to be a recluse in a nunnery to not know who Ray is. I've heard of a guy named Joe Flacco too but I have no idea what he does or anything like that. I didn't even know what dude looked like .......until tonight!

I just saw a commercial, for what I have no idea, with Joe Flacco in it. Holy Cow!!! Why didn't anybody tell me about this guy? Have you seen him?


He's some kinda tasty! I think from now on on Sunday and Monday night when the Ravens are playing I'll just have to find myself sitting in front of the TV watching my man Flacco! Hey Joe, if you are reading this, call me sometime OK?

How much do you think season tickets are?

You know what day it is! It's Wednesday so we have another installment of Ask Tee. Feel free to give your insight and thoughts on the readers question or my advice.

Letter #1

Hi Tee,

So what do I do when I'm not sure who the father of my baby is, but I know it's NOT my current boyfriends? I slept with two men, one a one night stand, the other a few nights a month stand. Obviously I didn't use protection with either of them, and now I'm 2 months pregnant and don't know who the sperm donor was. I told my current boyfriend the truth. He's fixed and the timing would have been off, so I had to come clean immediately. He's cool with it, so cool that he doesn't want me to tell either other man involved that there is a possibility one of them could be this baby's father. My current boyfriend wants to take on all the responsibility. I'm not sure how I feel about that. Do they have a right to know?

What advice would you give me? My gut says to tell the two possible fathers the truth, but being that I know nothing about the, (nor really my current) I don't know what kind of stand up fathers they might be. Do I ditch them all and go solo on the whole thing? Or let my current boyfriend be the stand in dad for as long as we date, then tell the poss. fathers to be?

Signed:

Tangled Web I Weave

My Answer:

Dear Tangled Web,

Whoo! I must say you have an amazing boyfriend and I hope you recognize that before you lose him.

My advice to you is to definitely tell the two possible fathers. They have a right to now they have a child. Also, the child really need to know who they really are, not the pieces of a seemingly perfect life you put together for your own convenience. Another thing comes to mind, there could be some serious medical issues that come out later in life that would be tremendously helpful in knowing should they rear their ugly head. Your child has a right to full disclosure.

You are blessed in that your current boyfriend will remain apart of the child's life no matter what so its a win win for you. I would just advise you to not rob the child of knowing who they are by preventing them from knowing their father.

I hope this helps and good luck!

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Before I get to my post of the day I just want to remind you that it's that time of year again!!!! The 3rd annual The Diva's Thoughts Top 10 Sexiest Women and Men Alive! I want you all to nominate who you feel is the sexiest man and woman alive. Votes submitted in the comments section will be tabulated and the winner will be announced next week so get to voting!!!

Now, on to the post for today. Several years ago I worked for a small training company as one of a few trainers on staff. We were a pretty close knit bunch. In fact I am still really good friends with one of the other trainers there named K.

Well there came a time when I felt I needed to move on to greener pastures. I found a new job and tendered my resignation.

Fast forward two weeks later and my final day had arrived. My coworkers decided to take me to dinner after work at this little local restaurant as a good bye/celebration. Who am I to say no to a party especially when it's in my honor so you bet I was there with bells on! We had a good time. The dinner was winding down but it was still early in the evening. One of my fellow coworkers named Terry decided she didn't want the party to end and suggested we go to a bar afterward. Of course I was in and so was K so the three of us ventured to downtown Baltimore.

When we walked in I immediately got a weird vibe. There was something different about this bar. Upon further inspection K and I came to realize this was a gay bar! Holy crap! I looked at K and we just shook our heads and laughed. Terry had taken us to a gay bar. I had no problem with that because nobody party like the gays! We had always suspected Terry of being gay and this just confirmed it. Keep in mind now that Terry was still "in the closet" at work as all we had to go on was our gut instincts but we knew.

It was further confirmed when Terry started chasing some chick around the bar. In Terry's defense the girl was cute. So as the night went on I found I was in desperate need of the ladies room so I asked Terry where it was. "I have to go too so I'll just go with you." she says. No problem. You know we girls always go to the bathroom in packs anyway.

We get upstairs to the bathroom and open the door and to my surprise there was only one toilet. The bathroom was like your typical one at home. Terry walks in behind me and shuts and locks the door. Oh oh! I turn around to face her and she says, "Oh yeah, there is only one toilet. You go ahead and use it first and I'll just turn around." Alrighty then. I finished my business and walked over to the sink to wash my hands and as I am doing so Terry starts her business. I kept my eyes as far away from the direction of the toilet as possible.

During this whole time we are making idle conversation. During this conversation she decided THIS was the perfect time to spill her guts and let me in on a little "secret". "I just wanted to let you know that I"m gay." You have me hold up in a bathroom alone and you think THIS is the right time to come out. Oy vey! I act as if I had no idea she was gay. It was an Oscar worthy performance people. Then she proceeds to say, "Don't tell K because I don't want the others at work to know." You have a butch haircut, masculine clothing and you take us to a gay bar and you think K has no idea you are gay? Way to keep it under wraps Terry.

For those of you that are contemplating coming out, it might not be the best time to divulge this information while hold up in a bathroom. I'm just saying.

You know what day it is! It's Wednesday so we have another installment of Ask Tee. Feel free to give your insight and thoughts on the readers question or my advice.

Letter #1

Dear Tee,

My girlfriend is constantly out with her friends, or on the phone with them telling them our business. I mean she tells all of our personal business and it is starting to really bug me. How do I tell her to keep our business just between us and not spread it around the whole damn city without starting World War III?

Sincerely,
Pissed Off Boyfriend

My Answer:

Dear Pissed Off,

Give her an open handed slap across the mouth! No, I am just kidding...no violence please. Simply sit her down and tell her that you love her but you feel _________ when she divulges intimate details of your relationship. Sometimes we women do share a little too much with our girlfriends. Tell her exactly how it makes you feel.

If she refuses to see the error of her ways then you really have to think whether or not this woman is the right one for you. A woman who loves, cherishes and respects you would not want to make you feel uncomfortable in the least. Just something to think about.

Take care!

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I was at the hospital recently visiting my mother when I decided to go to the cafeteria to get something to eat. I walked in, choose my food then proceeded to the check out. I was sitting down minding my own business when a guy walks up to me and says that the chef wanted to know if I was married or dating anyone. Why did I have a flashback to junior high but that's another story.

I said no and the guy came back with the chef's name and number. Great. He seems fine and all but with everything going on right now I have not had time to call him.

Because of that I can't show my face around that damn cafeteria because dude is gonna question me on why I haven't called him. Dagnabit! How would I answer him..." Uuuhhhh, see, what had happened was...uuhhhh.....I was busy.." Yeah, original.

Now I have to have someone else go in and buy me lunch or dinner and run pass really quick so he doesn't see me. Sometimes it's really hard carrying all this lusciousness around.

You know what day it is! It's Wednesday so we have another installment of Ask Tee. Feel free to give your insight and thoughts on the readers question or my advice.

Letter #1

Dear Tee,

I have been a relationship with my this guy for nine months. Everything was going well until he checked his voice mail and I overheard a message that a young lady left on his phone. I really do love this guy but I don't want to be hurt if he is cheating on me. What should I do? Should I let it go or hear what he has to say?

Sincerely,
Confused in Mississippi

My Answer:

Dear Confused in Mississippi,

Overhearing a message from someone we view as a potential rival for our loved ones affection can definitely throw us for a loop. It makes us jealous and insecure.

With that said, we have to work extra hard to not overreact in these situations. In your letter you never mentioned the particulars of the message. Was it flirtatious? Was she thanking him for a wonderful evening? Without knowing the content of the message I can't go any further then to say talk to him. Ask your man what the call was about. As his woman you have a right to know. Ask him straight out if he is seeing someone else. Watch his actions and mannerisms here instead of his words. That will tell you everything you will need to know.

Let your instincts drive you here. Our female intuitions are never wrong so listen to them.

Good luck!


Letter #2

Dear Tee,

My man and I have been together for 3 years. We have a great sex life but lately he's been getting kinkier then usual. He's been asking to tie me up during sex and he wants a little rear end action if you know what I mean.

I don't know if I should or not. What should I think about this?

Signed Scared of the Freak

My Answer:

Dear Scared of the Freak,

Girl are you crazy!! Your man just wants to add a little spice to the relationship so you better get on board or else someone else will be glad to fulfill his fantasies.

Now, although I definitely think you should be open to new things I don't think you should do something you feel fundamentally goes against your principals and moral upbringing. Think
about it, discuss with your man and happy exploring!!

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