Hello Bloghearts, it's been forever since I've done one of these Ask Tee's and thought it was about time I get back on board. So here goes.

Question:

Dear Tee,

I have an issue I need advice on and I can't ask anyone I know. I met this guy two months ago that I like. He's a gentleman, kind and generous. He's treats me like a queen. The problem is there is no zsa zsa zuh. You know, that chemical explosion you feel when you meet someone and all you want to do is rip their clothes off. Well, the problem is I just met this guy a couple of days ago and he is handsome sexy but he is the exact thing I need to run from. He's been in prison three times, he is a serious reformed bad boy. He's turned his life around. He's not as gentlemanly as the first guy but there is a serious chemical reaction going on. I know for sure the second guy would end like all the others I've felt this way about in the past....no where! All I really want to do is sex this guy up and leave him alone but I'm not sure if I should.

Tee, the first guy and I aren't a committed couple but he is husband material. the second guy could be nothing more then a play toy. Should I risk what I could build with the first guy for a fling with the second guy? I really want to do this second guy. what should I do?

Signed,
Tortured

Dear Tortured,

My first reaction is to tell you to go ahead and get your freak on!!!! But, common sense prevails and I have to give you a proper answer. If you want a relationship with this first guy I would suggest you leave the second guy alone. I know the thrill of a hot fling is alluring but the first guy sounds like a keeper.

Try spicing up your relationship with the first guy. maybe you could ignite that torch you are looking for.

If you have a situation that you need help sorting out just send Tee and email to asktee@hotmail.com

Today is Halloween. I never dress up for Halloween. I haven't since I was a little kid. Never once in my adult life. Can you believe that I have never been invited to a Halloween costume party in my adult life...ever?! I know, unbelievable.

Anyway, this guy that I recently started dating invited me to a party on Saturday and requirements were that we dress up. What to do, what to do? Well I decided to go to the costume store and see what they had in stock.

I had no idea there were so many wonderful, cool choices. I actually WANT to dress up next year and that's saying something!

I found a cute pirate costume so I was a pirate for Halloween. Here is a picture below of the costume from the stores website.

Wow, life has been so crazy that I can not believe it's been a month since I last posted. I am going to do much better, I promise. Right now I'm going to give you guys a little update on what's been happening.

Now that I am fully immersed in my new life in Atlanta I thought it was time to begin dating again. So I've been on a few dates. Here's a little recap.

I met one gentleman and he seemed really nice. I wasn't completely sold on him but I was willing to give him a go so we went on a couple of dates and they were nice. Of course he took things way too far and seriously tried to sleep with me. I'm like "Dude, this is only our second date. Back off." Geesh. Anyway, after I escaped from his clutches with my virtue in tact I went home. We spoke on the phone a few times after that date which was fine then all of a sudden he breaks down and tells me that he and his ex girlfriend have decided to give it another go. Really? I didn't really care because we were just getting to know each other but dude, you were trying to sleep with me. What if I had decided to give in and have sex with you and then you give me that "I'm going back to my ex" phone call? Not cool at all. Get your relationships in order BEFORE you try to sex a woman up.

Next guy, we too went on a few dates. Things were OK although I know that we weren't going to progress any further. He was cool but definitely not the one. Anyway, a few days after our last date I noticed he hadn't called. I was actually relieved that I didn't have to have that awkward "It's not you, it's me" conversation but alas, he called. He felt compelled to confess that he was actually living with a woman and he couldn't leave her at this time because she was going through things and it wouldn't be right to leave her. Then why the hell are you in MY face then?

Men, don't bring your crap to my front door. I don't need it.

I was watching a TV show today and one character was conflicted on the proper way to break up with his girlfriend. When they first were together he broke up with her on her voicemail. They got back together and he wanted to break up with her again but didn't want to do it again over voicemail because that would just be wrong and that got me to thinking, what is the best way to break up with someone? This characters friends were trying to convince him that doing the deed in person was the only way to go.

I also got to thinking over past breakups I had and how they were handled and I realized I never had the "break up conversation". Ever. The way my relationships ended were either because we argued and just never called each other or we just decided to not return calls and it just stopped being. I get bored with you, no call back to you. You tick me off, no phone calls back to you, don't hold the door open for me, no phone calls back to you. Done! After a couple of weeks of no phone calls the message is quite clear at that point.

Hell, does anyone really have that breakup conversation or do you wuss out like me and just stop calling?

I'm not sure if you know this about me but I LOVE shoes. I usually never order shoes over the internet because it's hard for me to find shoes that feel comfortable so I have to always try them on before purchasing but I was perusing the internet and couldn't help myself so I thought I would share with you my finds.

First, I was poking around on justfab.com and found a pair I just could not pass up.



Those heels are crazy high.

Next I was perusing shoedazzle.com and found these gems.



These are like walking on stilts. I'm going to probably break my neck on these babies but dammit I'm gonna look good on the gurney.

How many of you watch The Talk? I've been a faithful viewer since the very beginning. I love this show. I much preferred it over The View because the first ladies of the morning are usually a little too political for me but the ladies of The Talk have always been funny, fun, and relatable, largely due to the dynamic of the ladies and their chemistry. I have to say, Holly Robinson Peete and Leah Remini are hilarious and were clearly my stand out favorites.

When I heard they were not asked back for the second season I was completely upset and waged a Twitter war with CBS. For some reason they didn't listen to me and change their ways. Go figure. Anyway, I knew from the core of my being that this was a huge mistake. I was not the only one to feel this way. I follow Leah and Holly on Twitter and they retwitted many, many tweets of support and vows of no longer watching the show. Well they decided to add Molly Shannon and Sheryl Underwood. Really? They think Sheryl and Molly are a better fit then Leah and Holly. Really?

The show has become very uncomfortable for me to watch now. I'm not liking this change. CBS you should have listened to me and brought Leah and Holly back. Shame on you.

I heard that Julie Chen got all diva and didn't get along with Holly and Leah. She may have been threatened by their popularity, I don't know. Well, because of who Julie is married too the edict was handed down and Holly and Leah were unceremoniously given the boot. Talk about job security.

I wasn't too sure of these allegations until I watched the show dedicated to 9/11. The ladies were all sitting around the table giving their take on their 9/11 experience but when it came to Julie, she had a whole black and white vinyet taped with music and the whole nine yards. I remember looking at the show waiting for the other ladies to get their chance in the spotlight and tell their tale but it never came. Just Julie.

Hmmmm, there just might be something to this whole allegation of Julie being a controlling diva.

It's weird that she took over when the whole idea was Sarah Gilbert's. She's the executive producer for goodness sakes but it's become the Julie Chen and the Ladies show. I might just have to stop watching myself.

Hello all. This is Labor Day weekend which means only one thing....the summer is coming to a close. Usually I dread this time of year because I love my spring and summer months but actually, this year I am ambivalent about it. I guess because this year I will be in the south for the first time and won't have to deal with all the freezing temps and 4 feet of snow I'm used to. Yes it gets cold here in GA but nothing like what the north receives.

I talked to all of my peeps in MD recently to make sure everyone is OK. The north east has had some really crazy things happen recently. First an earthquake then a hurricane right after. Yowzers. We got nothing here. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout!

Getting back the the whole Labor Day thing, who's having a bbq? I need some free food and a bbq to crash so fess up. I promise to bring my wonderful whit and charm. You can leave your address in the comments, its safe here.