Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Facebook and Relationships

OK, so most people are on facebook these days. I'm kinda not really but I am if that makes sense. Anyway, with so many people on facebook now I was wondering how it impacts relationships.

Think about it. You are with someone and you take too long to change your status to "In A Relationship" and the other person gets pissed. They tick you off and you change your status to "It's Complicated" and you could have problems there too.

What if someone posts something a little questionable on your wall and your significant other gets upset, how do you handle that?

I know that if I were in a relationship, I would be stalking my mans' facebook page HOURLY.

Just thinking how complicated things could get makes me glad I am not in a relationship.

Have you ever experienced your S/O getting upset over something that was done on facebook? Are you guys beyond that and nothing upsets you? Inquiring minds want to know.

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shorty said...

Your timing is impecable.

I'm not technically in a relationship, but just last week PS asked me to be his friend on fb, I agreed, with the pre requisite that he not talk about anything 'personl'. He understood.

My current thing told me about the convo's on his fb page before I ever found them.

I think if your not doing anything shady, you have nothing to worry about and if you tell your S/O upfront about ppl and your pasts w/ them it's all good.

I'll never take down my fb page, not even if it gets me in hot water from time to time. I'm not doing anything wrong.

Why aren't we friends on FB? Email me privately if you want to be.

Karen said...

Really? Where is the trust? I am never going to be mad about something someone posts on my boyfriend's facebook wall. I know I am not jealous type of person, but why would anyone go looking for something to fight about or be jealous about??

When an ex changed his FB status to in a relationship with someone else, it stung a bit. But I just blocked his status updates so it wasn't in my face.

JStar said...

If there are insecurities in the realtionship, then there will be issues...My boo is on my FB and my status still reads "single" and he doesnt have a problem with it and has never mentioned it...I cant say that I even went to his page yet...

Queen-Size funny bone said...

Well you can be on FB without putting any of that info on there. I have my relationship as COMPLICATED. The only one that ever commented on it was my daughter. Which I thought was funny since she knows exactly how my relationship is with her father. Also I only list my maiden name since that is the only name my classmates would know.

Senorita said...

I've never been on Facebook. I've been on MySpace, and my ex got his thong in a knot over something I said after we broke up. He thought I was embarrassing him, and he had people looking out for him and reading his page.

I didn't even go into specifics in my comment. I just hinted and he was being a douche about it.

Glad I'm not up there anymore either.

The Ambiguous Blob said...

I hide my relationship status. Honestly, I don't think the world of high school friends and people I've met a few times need to know if and who I'm dating. Or not dating.
However, my boyfriend recently changed his relationship status to "it's complicated". When I got the notification to "accept" this new status, I just deleted the email. He can change his status to whatever he's comfortable with. And I only look at his page every few days, or if one of my friends tells me he's making funny comments somewhere.
This leads me to believe that I'm just not that into him. Ugh, boys. They're too much work.

The Dish said...

The Husband and I both know where our hearts are. He also knows that I am a harmless flirt. I think as long as 2 people trust each other, it shouldn't be a big deal!

Just telling it like it is said...

Yes and no...I never what to know the truth...lie to me

Julie said...

I had to make myself stop looking at his FB friends (he's only got 50 thank God) and trying to figure out if he is now or in the future will cheat on me with one of them!

Yeah, NO TRUST. And justifiably so!

Anonymous said...

Stalking the FB page of your lover, it's what we have to do!


ConfessionsofaSBW said...

I just had this conversation with a friend of mine. Facebook can break up relationships if the people using them are not careful to make sure they are not using it to reconnect with long losts loves or meet new people.

I wouldn't monitor my man's Facebook page but if he goes to it while we're in the same room, I sure will be looking over his shoulder. Now we would have a problem, if he didn't want to add me as a friend.

My last boyfriend insisted that I update my status to in a relationship; however the first time he made me mad, I changed it back to single. LOL

imbeingheldhostage said...

I don't stalk the hubby. I had a friend request from one of his old girlfriends, which I thought was weird at first but now realize it was actually a smart thing for her to do. I have no issues with him keeping in touch with people from his past and she just sent me a message that she has no other motive than to do just that. By us both being friends, I can view all correspondence-- if I wanted to.

Moooooog35 said...

I don't know.

Please have all these women post really really inappropriate things on my FB page with photos and email addresses and let's see what happens!

I'm all about the science.

Amber said...

My husband doesn't really read his Facebook page but if he does, I always try to be respectful that he wouldn't be ticked at what I say.

I'm FB friends with a couple of ex's so always try to be careful. :)

Jeni said...

Boy, the dilemmas that crop up when one is in a relationship! Guess it's a good thing I don't have that issue to worry about. I'm divorced and have my status set at "Single." Probably should read "Available" maybe? But anyway, I suppose the only person I might offend would be my ex-husband but since we've been divorced for almost 30 years now, I doubt I could offend him any more now than I did when we were married.
To my knowledge though -the only person I tend to offend on Facebook or on my Blog seems to be my oldest child and I really seem to excel in that art with her much of the time. Can't please everyone so I just go with what I know to be accurate, or as accurate as possible -which for me is just plain "Single."

Anonymous said...

I remember first when I got facebook, you could browse through someones friends, and see who they had listed as an ex girlfriend of boyfriend, a past hook up, and so on.

THAT got a lot of my friends in trouble, lol.

I don't think they have that feature anymore.

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