Sunday, October 31, 2010

My Current Craving - Day 11

So lately I have been on a serious craving. If you follow me on twitter then some of you will remember me declaring my love for all things Chipotle. I am addicted to their Bowls.

Have you ever had one? I mean seriously. You can put what you want on it so it's just a big pile of heaven in a bowl.

I think I know what I want for lunch today....again.

Tomorrow's post: You Should Have Just Kept walking

Saturday, October 30, 2010

Oooooh Baby! - Day 10

So I think I will take today to fill you in on a little secret. I have a celebrity crush. I've had the same crush for many years now and I strongly feel that if he knew I was alive he'd be all over me because I am so totally his type.

Yeah baby! Shemar Moore. I know he's arrogant and stuck on himself but dammit look at him! I think I could give him a pass...for about 4 months. That's when all that crap of his would get on my nerves and I'd have to kick him to the curb but until then, we'd have the best four months of our lives.

Tomorrow's post: My Current Craving

Friday, October 29, 2010

So You Just Gonna Run? - Day 9

OK, so the other day I was driving up a majorly busy road on my way to the gas station. I was driving on fumes so you better believe I was ecstatic to spot a station just a few feet away. I've been to this station many, many times so I knew exactly where it was.

Anyway, as I was applying my breaks to make a right turn into the parking lot a car from behind hit me in the rear! I couldn't believe it. Mind you I had my blinker on so there was no doubt of my intentions. I pull into the parking lot to get out of the way of the traffic behind me and the idiot keeps going! I was completely stunned that this fool would hit and run like that.

What was really great, however, was that there were witnesses to what happened. Two guys came to me and told me who it was and gave me a description of the car. It would have been easy for me to find this person because the car he was driving indicated he was on his was to the car dealership less then a mile up the same street.

I surveyed the damage and determined that there was absolutely no damage done to my car so I just dropped the whole thing because I thought I would have looked foolish making a big deal out of nothing really.

Then hours and days passed and the more I thought about it the more I felt I should have confronted the dweeb to let him know I could find him and that people had ratted him out so that he would realize for future reference that he could not hit and run because someone somewhere will always see what happened.

Next time this sort of thing happenes you better believe I and going to stop right where I am so the person won't have a chance to run.

Don't forget to stay tuned for tomorrow's post!

Thursday, October 28, 2010

You All Need My Eating Habits! - Day 8

You know how you go to your company's vending machine to find a nice healthy snack?

You look at all the choices in the machine to pick the healthiest.

So being the health conscience fanatic that I am I bet you think I went for the obvious choice here, the trail mix right?

Obviously you don't know me very well,

Yeah baby!

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

The Pet I'd Most Like to Have - Day 7

Anyone that knows me knows I want a puppy really, really, really bad. I just love puppies. How could you not. The only thing that is keeping me from getting one is the whole walking thing. I don't have time to walk the little bugger If I could find a dog that doesn't pee or poop then I'm all over it.

With my house being on the market people can come in at anytime so I don't really have a place to put one of those little grassy patches that you can train dogs to go on when you don't have time to take them out. It's great for people in apartments. Maybe when I finally get to move I'll be able to do that but not now. I want a dog that looks just like this one:

How could you not love that face?! I just wanna eat him up!

Stay tune for tomorrow's post!

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Would You Give Up Your Dream of a Big Wedding For Your Fiancé - Day 6

If you wanted to marry your significant other and you had your heart set on a big wedding with all the works and he/she wasn't really into such a display and really had their heart set on something on a much smaller scale would you scale back your plans or would you force the issue because it has always been your dream?

When I was planning my first wedding I had my heart set on the big elaborate event and luckily my fiancé was all for it as well. I'm not sure how I would have felt if he wanted something smaller. I know that I wouldn't have settled for a court house wedding that's for sure but I'd like to think that I would have compromised on some level but I just don't know.

When I plan my second marriage I now have my heart set on a much smaller event. I actually am hoping for a court house wedding this time. The only way I'd have a big shindig is if my fiancé really had his heart set on it. I would then give in because I wouldn't want to feel as if I was making him miss out on something.

It's funny, you'd think most guys would want a small event and not care about the particulars but I've met a lot of men that actually desire a big elaborate thing. Go figure.

What would you do in that situation? You you stick to your guns or compromise with your fiancé?

Tomorrow's post: The Pet I'd Most Like to Have

Monday, October 25, 2010

How to Compliment Your Other Half - Day 5

This post came in from Ivana Vitali.

We’ve all received compliments, so we all know the kind of power they can have. If one catches you off guard, the effect can be quite staggering – a casual comment could cheer you up for a whole week, give you a boost of confidence, or even completely change your opinion about something. We all have our own insecurities, and compliments are one of the essential resources we use to give and receive reassurance about them.

Reassurance is particularly important for couples. Whether you’ve met through friends, at a garden party, or through dating websites , encouraging and advising are essential components of every healthy relationship. A very big part of this involves placing well-timed compliments into everyday conversations. But compliments are not always well received – they can be easily taken the wrong way or disbelieved. So, here are a few tips for compliment-novices to ensure that flattery always has the desired effect:

Pick up on hints…

Sometimes, without even knowing it themselves, people tend to fish for a good word. It will usually happen when they’ve been knocked back by a negative comment. “I don’t think I’m like that”, they’ll say, looking at you keenly. Although it may be clear what they’re doing, they obviously need genuine reassurance on this point, so pick up on these hints and deliver compliments on cue. These are sure to give a smile.

Take them by surprise…

As well as picking up on hints, try to surprise your partner by complimenting them when they least expect it. Try one when you’re relaxing at home and she’s got no make-up on, or write one on the mirror when he’s about to have a shower before work.

Focus on insecurities…

Identify your partner’s major insecurities and make a point of complimenting them on those particular personal weaknesses. If they hate their legs, take pains to admire them. If they worry about their culinary skills, be in raptures when you eat their food . You get the gist.

Notice the changes…

When we spend however much on a new haircut, a new item of clothing or other various accessories, we expect someone to notice. Be on the lookout for changes in your partner and make sure to comment on them. If they go to the hairdressers, compliment them when they get back – even if their hair only looks slightly different!

Don’t over-exaggerate…

You’re allowed to slightly over-emphasise on some points when you compliment, but don’t go too far. Telling downright lies, inventing wildly and making huge exaggerations will only lead your partner to suspect that you’re being insincere. Overly cheesy lines and ones that sound like chat-up lines should also be avoided, as they will also lead to suspected insincerity. The compliment will then have the opposite effect to the one you intended.

Avoid sleaziness…

This is a particularly important point to bear in mind when choosing your compliments. Try not to make them purely physical, as they will inevitably come across as sleazy and offensive, especially to women.

Whether you’re in Leeds dating or in Liverpool dating, compliments are incredibly important. If you follow the above advice, you will soon be putting a smile on your partner’s face at every opportunity.

Please follow Ivana on Twitter @ivacontent.

Tomorrow's post: You Give Up Your Dreams of a Big Wedding for Your Fiance?

Sunday, October 24, 2010

I'm Not Afraid to Eat - Day 4

This post is for the ladies. Ladies, you know when you go on a date for the first time with a new guy that you actually like and he takes you to dinner and you order a salad or something small because you are afraid to eat in front of him? Well not me.

I have never been a shy eater. Hell, take me somewhere where there is food and I will scarf it all down then graze the rest of the evening. I am a serious foodie and dude needs to know it right from the start.

If he can't deal with me eating a whole chicken, three bowls of pasta and four slices of pie in one sitting then he is clearly not the one for me.

I am such a lady.

Tomorrow's post will actually be a guest post!! Stay tuned!

Saturday, October 23, 2010

My Idea of The Perfect Date - Day 3

OK everyone, here is post number 3 in my marathon. My idea of the perfect date. In thinking over all the dates I've had that I can remember I actually don't have one that sticks out to me. That is a damn shame. In all these years of dating I don't have one that stands out as great.

I've had many dates though that were fun. Those were the ones where we just sat and hung out. Maybe go to the lake and sit and talk and just focus on us. I like those times.

The more I think about it dinners, and plays and parties don't really make for great memories or warm feelings. The best dates I've gone on were when my date and I just sat and talked and laughed. I still smile when I think of some of those dates.

Something as simple as doing nothing actually means the most to me.

I just remembered, I can't even remember the last time I went on a date. Geesh!

Do you have a date that stands out to you as being the best date ever?

Tomorrow's post: I'm Not Afraid to Eat.

Friday, October 22, 2010

I'm Just Not That Into You - Day 2

Here's day two of my 30 day posting marathon. Today I'm going to talk about being with someone you are just not that into.

I've met many men over the years that I liked but was not really that into. They were nice enough in one way or another but for some reason just wasn't fitting the bill.

I remember one guy in particular. We had been dating for about 3 years. I had moments when I was into him but overall not so much. He was cool to hang out with and I think that's why I kept him around for as long as I did.

Toward the end of our relationship things were starting to get a little difficult though. I found that dealing with his jealousy was becoming more of an issue and sex was becoming unbearable. I had to do something. I would look at dude and wonder what in the world was I doing. Then his father got really sick and was terminal and I really couldn't drop him then. I can be mean but I'm not a cold hearted bitch.

We went on vacation to Hawaii and in the middle of our vacation his brother called him just to tell him that he was afraid for his father because he was looking a little worse for the wear. I was livid because after that phone call my BF was totally sad and preoccupied. You don't call someone and tell them crap like that while on vacation. I was livid. You couldn't wait until we got home to express your concern? Geesh!

We made the best of the remainder of the vacation and managed to have a good time. But clearly I couldn't drop him anytime soon. I was walking around everyday yelling "Give Us Free!"

So eventually months later I was able to cut ties and it was heart wrenching (for him) but we moved on and I was so glad I did it.

Now when I run into him in public he act as if he doesn't even know me. Oh well.

Tomorrow's topic: My Idea of The Perfect Date

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Caught Up

Hello my bloghearts! How are you these days? Blogging around these parts have been pretty scarce lately. Not just me but I visit my favorite blogs and notice that lately they go days and weeks without updating. I wonder if its just that time of year. I thought people would start blogging more when school started and summer was over. Oh well.

In an effort to get my blogging mojo back I am going to post everyday for 30 days. That's right people, 30 freakin days consecutively! Boy this is going to be interesting so come visit everyday for the next 30 days and see what in the world I'm up to that day!

So today, I'm going to discuss being caught up. You all know what I mean. You meet someone and they have your nose wide open. You are completely caught up in them and you can't see past when the next time you get to see them.

I was caught up like that once. Yeah, I know it's hard to believe but trust me, it happened to me.

I was young, very early 20's and not very sure of myself. I had gone to a male strip show with one of my really good friends. One of the dancers caught my eye. he was in his early 30's. I was way out of my league with this guy but I could not help myself. We spent alot of time at his house. That didn't bother me none.

He had my head so far in the clouds it was ridiculous. I wanted to spend everyday with him but of course that couldn't happen. Wherever he was dancing I wanted to be there too. It was bad.

He started treating me very dismissively and pretty disrespectfully at times but I still tried to hang in there. He'd bring other women home when he knew I would be there. You'd think I'd learn my lesson and stop having feelings for him but that didn't happen. When you are young your emotions take over and you think that's all there is. I stopped sleeping with him though (on a regular basis) but my heart was still there.

When I finally got away from him physically I ran into 16 years later and those feelings started to surface. It was on my birthday to be exact and my friends, Clueless and Crazy, and I were out celebratinig my big day and we ran into him.. Man oh man why did we have to run into HIM.

He's one person I had to completely cut out and never communicate with or else bad things begin to happen.

Is there anyone out there that had you all caught up like that?

Tomorrow's post, I'm Just Not That Into You.

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Ask Tee

Dear Tee,

My boyfriend hit me the other day for the first time and I am confused. He apologized and everything and has been on his best behavior since but I can't help but flash back to all those shows I saw on TV where the woman was beat constantly by her man and it always started off just like this, him being sorry and her trying to forgive him but they always went back to the hitting,.

I'm afraid my man will do the same. Should I leave him or stay?


My Answer,

Dear Bee,

I'm not sure of the circumstances behind him hitting you but there is never an excuse for him putting his hands on you in a violent manner. With that said, if he has been on his best behavior then I would just put him on notice. If he ever even THINKS about putting his hands on you...RUN for the door. Do not look back.

Best of luck.

Monday, October 4, 2010

You Love a Girly Man!

Both men and women have their own specific tastes and types when it comes to picking a mate. Some of us like the taller of the group, some of us like the shorter ones, some like our mates lighter while some like them darker. Some like the clean cut look while others prefer the edgy rocker types. Our differences are what makes society work so beautifully.

I personally like a pretty boy. Someone who is very handsome to the point of being pretty. I like that a lot. I also enjoy a metrosexual guy. For those that may not know what a metrosexual guy is he is someone that takes great care and pride in his appearance. His grooming is impeccable and his clothing is always on point. He is very particular about his cologne. He's the guy you might even see at the nail salon getting his manicure and pedicure. He wears jewelry and has several pairs of shoes to match different outfits he may own. I love a man that takes good care of himself.

For some women this might be a bit much. They might prefer the rough and tumble, ultra masculine guy. I often find myself drooling over these kinds of guys as well but they all have to have a really handsome face.

I've known for a very long time what kind of guy I was attracted too. When I was 10 years old I had a serious crush on this really cute pretty boy in my class. Then a year later I had my first "boyfriend" who was the neighborhood bad boy and just happened to also be a pretty boy as well. Oh yeah, I knew early on what I liked.

Do you have a specific type? Is a metrosexual guy a little over the top for you? Guys do you prefer legs over boobs?