Awhile ago I was in a festive mood and decided to throw a little shindig at my abode and invite some friends over to partake. I have no idea what got into me but you can bet your sweet patooty that has never happened again. Anyway, I was feeling extra warm and fuzzy and took it upon myself to cook all of the food for this gathering myself as opposed to having guests bring a dish. I'm thoughtful that way.

So one by one all of my guests arrive and things are going along swimmingly. There is food, music, games and stories. Nice time was being had by all.

As the evening progressed I found myself in the kitchen talking to a few guests. One young lady who was a friend of a friend that was invited said to me, " I was a little worried about the food."

I gave her a sideways glance and asked, "Huh?" Clearly the only appropriate response to such a statement.

She goes on to further say, "You just don't look like someone that could cook." What the hell?

I mean seriously......

You know what day it is! It's Wednesday so we have another installment of Ask Tee. Feel free to give your insight and thoughts on the readers question or my advice.

Letter #1

Dear Tee,

I have a real problem. I'm a guy and I'm married to a wonderful lady. We've been married for 6 years now and have one child. I love my wife and kid, I really do.

Here's my problem, for the last 2 years I've been sleeping with the guy on my job. I feel guilty and I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt my family but I also can't deny how I feel either. He gives me things that I didn't know were missing before and I don't want to give him up but I also don't want to give up my wife.

What can I do?

Signed,

Caught Up

My Answer:

Dear Caught Up,

Wow! This is a doosie. You absolutely have to be honest with your wife and the sooner the better.

She will undoubtedly be hurt and upset and will probably leave you but you can not go on lying to her this way. She deserves the truth. You clearly have a penchant for the same sex and it's not going away as you've had this ongoing affair for 2 years. Even if you try to hide and deny these feelings you will be unhappy and living a lie thus making your wife and child unhappy.

The longer you prolong this the worse it will be in the end. Come clean and live your life openly and honestly from here on out and no one will get hurt in the future. You can't undo the hurt you've already caused so the only thing left for you is do better from here on out.

Good Luck.

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You know what day it is! It's Wednesday so we have another installment of Ask Tee. Feel free to give your insight and thoughts on the readers question or my advice.

Letter #1

Hi Tee,

With Christmas coming I have a dilemma. I have a pretty small family and it was always our tradition to get together for Christmas. Well this year is a little different and we are not really functioning as a family at the moment and to be honest I am not really feeling the whole faking warm feelings to be around my brother and sisters. We haven't really spoken in quite awhile.

Would it be wrong to blow off Christmas? Would it be wrong to just buy my father a present, visit him then leave and not worry about the family gathering or any presents being exchanged? What do you think?

Signed,

Not feeling the Holidays

My Answer:

Dear Not Feeling The Holidays,

I totally understand where you are coming from. It's wierd that I received this email as I am going through something pretty similar in my own family. The holidays put a lot of stress on people...wondering what they should or should not do. Some feel sad because they don't have a family. This can be a very trying time for many.

Have you tried reaching out to your brother and sisters? Maybe clearing the air between you may make for cozier feelings and a desire for a family gathering. If that is not possible, since I don't really know how deep this riff is between you and your siblings, then maybe foregoing the gathering is the best. If you are not in the family holiday spirit then don't try to fake it. It will be very noticeable and you will be unhappy to boot.

Take this time to perhaps spend with friends or travel to help ease the feelings of angst you may have.

Happy Holidays!

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A couple of days ago The Diva's Thoughts published our 2009 list for the Top 10 Sexiest Women Alive. Now it's the fella's turn. We are going to spotlight the top 10 hunks for 2009 for the third year in a row to find the sexiest man alive.

These men make our hearts flutter and give us fever so without further ado let's list these gorgeous men!

#10
Robert Pattinson

With the mania that is Twilight I could not leave off this prestigious list one of the sexiest vampires out there!

#9
Columbus Short

This up an coming hottie of the silver screen has appeared in such films as Stomp The Yard and This Christmas sends my pulse racing every time I see him.




#8
Maxwell

What can we say about this crooner. He lost his signature 'fro but the sexiness and swagger is still there.



#7
Eric Dane

This Grey's Anatomy hottie makes my heart race! I can't even look him in the eyes.



#6
James Hardy

My oh my! This NFL star for the Buffalo Bills makes me weak in the knees.



#5
Tom Brady

This New England Patriots NFL player hottie is off the market ladies as he is married to Gisele Bündchen, Ms. Victoria Secret herself. That's just to much gorgeous for one household.

#4
Idris Elba

My goodness just look at this hottie! This actor has appeared in many films through out his career but he will always be Stringer Bell to us at The Diva's Thoughts.

#3
Chris Pine

This gorgeous actor has appeared in such TV and films as CSI Miami and Star Trek. I might have to became a Trekkie if I could get next to him!



#2
Alex Rodriquez

This hot and controversial baseball player is always in the news linked to a hot woman. His woman of the month is Kate Hudson. Man he gives me fever.

#1

The sexiest man of 2009!!
Will Demps

This gorgeous football player once played for Baltimore and lastly Houston. He's half Korean and half black, over 6ft tall and just too hot to look at straight on. You have to sneak in a look at him from your peripherals. Man I swear I am going to start watching football!!

There you have it ladies and gentlemen. For previous years top 10 list click here.

Well ladies and gentlemen, it is that time of year again. It is time for The Diva's Thoughts to list our top 10 sexiest women alive for 2009 for the third year in a row. In a couple of days we will list the sexiest men but this is the time for the beautiful and sexy ladies to shine.

Without further ado here is our list for The Diva's Thoughts 2009 10 Sexiest Women Alive

#10

Shakira

What can I say about this sexy singer. Her hips don't lie and neither does her sensual on an off stage presence.

#9

Audrina Patridge (from The Hills)

There is no denying this Hill star has tremendous sex appeal.



#8

Melissa Ford (Model)

All I can say about Melissa is just look at her!

#7

Beyonce

I don't even need to say anything about Ms. Bey.


#6

Rihanna

This picture speaks for itself.



#5

Janet Jackson

Janet has always been a sexy woman but she has seriously come back this year after some very tough times and proved she still has it.



#4

Megan Fox

I know that she has had some foot in mouth situations this year but there is no denying this woman is sex appeal personified.



#3

Kim Kardashian

Here's another one that needs no explanation for being on this list.



#2

Alessandra Ambrosio (Victoria Secret model)

Just look at this woman.

#1
Roslyn Sanchez

This hot and sexy latin actress sizzles every time she is on the screen which is why she is the sexiest woman of 2009?




For previous lists, please click here.