Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Ask Tee

You know what day it is! It's Wednesday so we have another installment of Ask Tee. Feel free to give your insight and thoughts on the readers question or my advice.

Letter #1

Dear Tee,

I have a real problem. I'm a guy and I'm married to a wonderful lady. We've been married for 6 years now and have one child. I love my wife and kid, I really do.

Here's my problem, for the last 2 years I've been sleeping with the guy on my job. I feel guilty and I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt my family but I also can't deny how I feel either. He gives me things that I didn't know were missing before and I don't want to give him up but I also don't want to give up my wife.

What can I do?

Signed,

Caught Up

My Answer:

Dear Caught Up,

Wow! This is a doosie. You absolutely have to be honest with your wife and the sooner the better.

She will undoubtedly be hurt and upset and will probably leave you but you can not go on lying to her this way. She deserves the truth. You clearly have a penchant for the same sex and it's not going away as you've had this ongoing affair for 2 years. Even if you try to hide and deny these feelings you will be unhappy and living a lie thus making your wife and child unhappy.

The longer you prolong this the worse it will be in the end. Come clean and live your life openly and honestly from here on out and no one will get hurt in the future. You can't undo the hurt you've already caused so the only thing left for you is do better from here on out.

Good Luck.


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17 People saying stuff:

JStar said...

WOW....I totally agree with your advice Tee...He def needs to come clean and get this out in the open...Lets just hope that he listens to your advice...My heart goes out to his wife...

Queen-Size funny bone said...

this is a tough one, because sfomeone will always get hurt.

Noelle said...

Ouch! Your advice is right on though.

B said...

Damn, didn't see this problem coming! Great advice though!

Secretia said...

That is a sorrowful situation. I pray for that family.

Secretia

Ms Bibi said...

Wow, it is a doosie as you said.

The advice was great. Always come clean.

Freckle Face Girl said...

She may already suspect it....? You are right about it being better to come clean & hope they can be friends.

Freckle Face Girl said...

By the way, I like your new design. It has been a while since I blogged. :)

DeNae said...
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DeNae said...

My last comment was too angry. I confess to having very little patience for this kind of narcissism. I would add the advice that everyone involved be tested for STDs.

The Ambiguous Blob said...

I can't imagine how the wife will feel, hearing this. I totally get why he would be careful about sharing this with her. Right now, and for the past couple of years, everything is working out for him. So why would he feel compelled to change it?
Yes, it sucks that he's been lying to his wife. But maybe he could at least let her down easy and tell her he has feelings for men. But keep the affair to himself and just let the breakup happen and allow some time to pass before flaunting his side-relationship in front of his wife.
The truth would hurt too much in this situation. And the wife doesn't deserve to have to think about all of the deceipt over the years...

Just telling it like it is said...

ouch...how much sex is he getting? I mean why give up the family when you are just having a trist....
I would die dead!

Del-V said...

Honesty is the best policy.

Moooooog35 said...

Dear Tee,

Excuse me whilst I go pour bleach in my eyes.

Signed,

Moooooog

L said...

Totally agree with your advice. Someone is going to get hurt but the longer it goes on the worse it's going to be.

Martinis or Diaper Genies? said...

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and he's writing this into a blog?

MysTery said...

WHAT THE~