You know what day it is! It's Wednesday so we have another installment of Ask Tee. Feel free to give your insight and thoughts on the readers question or my advice.
I have a real problem. I'm a guy and I'm married to a wonderful lady. We've been married for 6 years now and have one child. I love my wife and kid, I really do.
Here's my problem, for the last 2 years I've been sleeping with the guy on my job. I feel guilty and I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt my family but I also can't deny how I feel either. He gives me things that I didn't know were missing before and I don't want to give him up but I also don't want to give up my wife.
What can I do?
Dear Caught Up,
Wow! This is a doosie. You absolutely have to be honest with your wife and the sooner the better.
She will undoubtedly be hurt and upset and will probably leave you but you can not go on lying to her this way. She deserves the truth. You clearly have a penchant for the same sex and it's not going away as you've had this ongoing affair for 2 years. Even if you try to hide and deny these feelings you will be unhappy and living a lie thus making your wife and child unhappy.
The longer you prolong this the worse it will be in the end. Come clean and live your life openly and honestly from here on out and no one will get hurt in the future. You can't undo the hurt you've already caused so the only thing left for you is do better from here on out.
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