I was talking on the phone yesterday with an old co-worker turned friend. It was a brief conversation as many of them with her are but enlightening nonetheless. 2 ½ years ago when I met "D" we became fast buddies. I found her interesting and funny.
During the course of my working at this company an unfortunate event transpired that landed her boyfriend in jail. It took her quite sometime to admit that to me but once she did I was not surprised. I had surmised as much by snippets of conversations we had about him. Now she is the type of woman that will stand by her man regardless just as I am so it was no surprise that she is her man's most staunch supporter in his efforts to be released.
Fast forward 2 ½ years later and this man is still in jail and "D" is still fiercely trying to gain his release. She is still by his side, in the trenches fighting right along side him. This is where she and I part company.
See, if my man was falsely accused of a crime then I would be the first in line trying to obtain the best lawyers and fighting with everything in me, never giving up on him. BUT, let The Analyst go to jail on some dumb shit like robbing someone or selling drugs and his stupid ass would stay in that jail…alone.
That might sound harsh but I just can't condone committing senseless crimes like that. I just can't. They both had good jobs so I can't fathom a reason for the crime for which he was convicted. I refuse to put my life on hold for such madness. "D" has, essentially put her entire life on hold these past 2 ½ years.
I'm sorry but that couldn't be me. Would you stand by your mate for 2 ½ years or more while they are in jail?
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