You know what day it is! It's Wednesday so we have another installment of Ask Tee. Feel free to give your insight and thoughts on the readers question or my advice.
I have been a relationship with my this guy for nine months. Everything was going well until he checked his voice mail and I overheard a message that a young lady left on his phone. I really do love this guy but I don't want to be hurt if he is cheating on me. What should I do? Should I let it go or hear what he has to say?
Confused in Mississippi
Dear Confused in Mississippi,
Overhearing a message from someone we view as a potential rival for our loved ones affection can definitely throw us for a loop. It makes us jealous and insecure.
With that said, we have to work extra hard to not overreact in these situations. In your letter you never mentioned the particulars of the message. Was it flirtatious? Was she thanking him for a wonderful evening? Without knowing the content of the message I can't go any further then to say talk to him. Ask your man what the call was about. As his woman you have a right to know. Ask him straight out if he is seeing someone else. Watch his actions and mannerisms here instead of his words. That will tell you everything you will need to know.
Let your instincts drive you here. Our female intuitions are never wrong so listen to them.
My man and I have been together for 3 years. We have a great sex life but lately he's been getting kinkier then usual. He's been asking to tie me up during sex and he wants a little rear end action if you know what I mean.
I don't know if I should or not. What should I think about this?
Signed Scared of the Freak
Dear Scared of the Freak,
Girl are you crazy!! Your man just wants to add a little spice to the relationship so you better get on board or else someone else will be glad to fulfill his fantasies.
Now, although I definitely think you should be open to new things I don't think you should do something you feel fundamentally goes against your principals and moral upbringing. Think
about it, discuss with your man and happy exploring!!