Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Ask Tee

You know what day it is! It's Wednesday so we have another installment of Ask Tee. Feel free to give your insight and thoughts on the readers question or my advice.

Letter #1

Dear Tee,

My girlfriend is constantly out with her friends, or on the phone with them telling them our business. I mean she tells all of our personal business and it is starting to really bug me. How do I tell her to keep our business just between us and not spread it around the whole damn city without starting World War III?

Pissed Off Boyfriend

My Answer:

Dear Pissed Off,

Give her an open handed slap across the mouth! No, I am just violence please. Simply sit her down and tell her that you love her but you feel _________ when she divulges intimate details of your relationship. Sometimes we women do share a little too much with our girlfriends. Tell her exactly how it makes you feel.

If she refuses to see the error of her ways then you really have to think whether or not this woman is the right one for you. A woman who loves, cherishes and respects you would not want to make you feel uncomfortable in the least. Just something to think about.

Take care!

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6 People saying stuff:

Sandi McBride said...

He should ask her how she'd like it if he did that with his friends? And then proceed to do it for effect...

Liam said...

I have a friend who is almost like my sister. She has been around for ages and I care for her deeply. When I need an ear she gives it willingly. Unfortunately she can't keep anything to herself and not just my stuff I mean anybody's.

I have often sat down with her and have done exactly as you advise. It hasn't worked.

Some people just can't help themselves.

My solution? I know longer share with her what I don't want to get around.

Lys said...

Both Liam & Sandi have some good advice. I know I had girlfriends who would divulge EVERYTHING about their men and I would have to mentally check my response of "Bish PULEASE!" They would get upset when I wouldn't talk about my relationships or anything - not their concern. He's got to be firm with his girl and tell her to zip it!

Moooooog35 said...

OMG you need help on these letters.

Let me take a crack at it:

"Dear Pissed Off,

Dude. Seriously. Let her talk.

So, say she starts telling her girlfriends about stuff you do to her and her friends get all, 'wow..he sounds awesome' and then next thing you know your girlfriend is all, like, 'Hey, know my friend, Jessica? She wants to join us,' and then you'd be like, 'HOLY CRAP I ALMOST TOLD HER TO STOP TELLING PEOPLE SHIT!'.

Let it go, man. Let it go.

Good luck.

- Moooooog"



(vixenchick) said...

just dropping by to show some love!



Del-V said...

I think some people are just gossips... guys and girls... even if you tell them to stop telling secrets, they can't. In fact, they get more enjoyment out of sharing forbidden secrets. It's a power thing. Anyway, the best thing to do is to keep your secrets with people you can trust and respect, like a priest, the operators at the anonymous FBI crime hotline or a bartender.