Monday, July 12, 2010

Sure....You Can Cheat.

Hello all. I have a question to pose to the masses. Let's say that you are married or at the very least in a committed relationship and the unthinkable happens. You are involved in a horrible accident. That accident rendered you an invalid and unable to have sex with your mate.

You two love each other and this is a horrific situation to have to deal with. You guys make it through the long recovery stage but still sex is out of the question.

You begin to feel really guilty about keeping your mate in a sexless relationship. You are torn. Torn because you love your mate and they love you and show in every way how they feel but you just can't help but feel guilty and selfish because you know how much not having sex is eating at your mate and there is nothing you can do. The frustration is unbearable.

My question to you is do you allow your mate to go off and have outside relationships to keep him or her happy or do you continue in the sexless relationship you are currently in even though it's tearing you both up inside?


13 People saying stuff:

The Dish said...

Damn. That's a tough one. I cannot STAND the thought of The Husband with another woman, but how bad would that suck for him? I don't. Not sure that is a question I can answer without being in that situation.

Senorita said...

If I marry a man, I would swear to stand by him in sickness and in health. If he were unable to have sex, I would still be faithful to him.

I would expect the same out of him too.

Moooooog35 said...

I say, yes...keep your man happy.

Preferably with a Victoria Secret underwear model.

★Starrla Monae☆ said...

I agree w/Senorita. He and I took vows for better or worse...in sickness and in health....just because he's sexually unable to fulfill me or if I'm able to please him...we should be able to figure out another plan of action...AMONG OURSELVES. I'm very possessive and I don't share.

tanyetta said...

Yes!!!

Freckle Face Girl said...

That actually happened to my mom's cousin. His beautiful wife is horribly handicap (mentally & physically). I think he is the most amazing man ever because he raised their kids (they were very young) & takes great care of her. It has been at least 40 years. I don't have any answers, but I think there is a special place in heaven for him.

JStar said...

I would prob leave him and let him go...Although I agree with Senorita...I would remain faithful and "improvise" but a man is a man...If I dont let him go, then he will go out there eventually...so I would rather let him go upfront...Plus I have a thing about someone taking care of me...I wouldnt want to be a burden on anyone...

Ranger Tom said...

The tragic accident my ex-wife had to make our marriage sexless was eating that damn wedding cake at our reception...

Menopausal New Mom said...

What a tough question! I think I would give my husband the green light to ease my mind and hope that he refused.

Tonya said...

where do you come up with these questions women! I think you made vows and by standing by those vows you show your mate that you not only love them but also respect them. It isn't like they got in the accident so they didn't have to have sex with their mate. I know many people who are in their 30s and have never had sex. Having sex isn't a health benefit to anyone so it will not harm them if they don't.

Red Shoes said...

Hmmm... how badly fukt up am I? I mean, after this accident?? Am I just laying there and drooling??? Just a limp noodle???? I don't mean 'limp' from the standpoint of not being able to get it up, but limp from the standpoint that I just am laying there... of course, if I'm limp and just laying there.. then I'm probably limp there too... so it doesn't matter... I don't guess.

What was the question??

I do have to give a great deal of credit to my ex wife however... when she was still THE wife... once she started screwing that other guy, she was committed to him... she wouldn't have a thing to do with me...

Isn't Love grand?

Man, just based on this, I feel a drunk blog post coming on later!!! :oD

~shoes~

Ranger Tom said...

I have to quantify my last comment...

There was lots of sex in my marriage.

I just wasn't involved in any of it.

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