Friday, February 5, 2010

Reaquainted

Many years ago I met a guy while hanging out with friends. It turns out that every time I went to a party he was there. We became casual friends, chatting it up and dancing together when we did see each other. This went on for many years. We of course lost contact for a number of years as we had gotten older and running the street every weekend gave way to marriages and raising families (he has a son).

For some strange reason he popped into my head out of the blue, for no reason early one Sunday morning. I hadn’t seen him in several years so there was no reason why this dude would pop up in my head but he did. I was up and channel surfing on the TV when I came across my church and my pastor preaching. I say that loosely because I haven’t attended a service in a very long time but I still feel that is my church. I have a great relationship with God so whether I go to church or not my faith is still very strong. So as I am watching services on TV I decided to get up and go to church. I’m not sure what motivated me to go on this particular morning but I was on a mission.

I got dressed and headed to church with my bible in hand. I get there and find a seat and within seconds who do I spot? None other then my friend I was thinking about earlier. Creepy huh? Let’s call him Rev. Dr.

So all during service I kept stealing glances at him as he was sitting a few rows in front of me. After church was over he came up to me and gave me a big hug. He used to always do that. We chatted it up for a few minutes and then he walked me out to the front door. I gave him a card with my information on it with instructions for him to call me whenever he had a chance. Boy, I’m smooth I tell ya.

A couple hours later he added me as a friend on facebook. ‘Mmmmm’ I thought, ‘I guess I’ll be hearing from him pretty soon then.’

Well a few days pass and dude never called. WTH! I was surprised as I would have bet both of my kidneys that he was going to call. Then I simply resigned myself to the fact that he would never call and I simply moved on.

About a week and a half later I receive a text from him. OK, that was totally random and out of the blue. Of course I responded. We text back and forth for while until I decided to just go ahead and call him.

On one of our conversations he decides to bare his soul and tell me that he had been in love with me all those years ago and that I had not changed at all in all these years. Wow! OK I did not see that one coming.

Rev. Dr. and I have a mutual friend named Mr. Music whom I’ve known for about as long as Rev. Dr. What Rev. Dr. does not know is that Mr. Music and I had a little “thing” several years ago right after my separation from my husband. It was pretty intense for a minute. We stopped seeing each other and subsequently lost touch. Fast forward about 12 years and I run into Mr. Music at another mutual friend’s house. Baltimore is too damn small. We get reacquainted and he expresses his love for me as well. Oh Oh. Well, it just so happens that I was no longer attracted to Mr. Music anymore. Well, that’s not completely true. Have you ever met someone that you are not really attracted to but they have this sexiness swagger thing going that you find utterly appealing and totally drawn too? Well that’s Mr. Music. I came to my senses and nixed this whole thing in the bud before anything ever happened.

Rev. Dr. doesn’t know any of this so he proceeds to call Mr. Music and tells him that he saw me in church and how he felt about me and all this stuff and Mr. Music apparently just sat there and listened to this. I could only imagine how he felt hearing all this.

Things have been going along very well with Rev. Dr. so far. He’s very sweet and very attentive and an overall great guy. Did I mention that he is studying to be a minister? Yeah.

On one hand I like him but on the other hand I’m not sure I can get involved with an eventual minister. I mean, I cuss sometimes, I go to parties with my friends, I dress….a little… sassy at times. I would have to change all of that to fit into the mold of a minister’s girlfriend. I’m not sure about this one.

I do find it interesting that just at the very moment I was thinking about him after all these years, POOF!, he pops up.

I don’t know about this one folks.

21 People saying stuff:

The Dish said...

Wow, Tee! It is almost as if you went to run into him. I understand the hesitation to be a minister's girlfriend too. What a conundrum!

Red Shoes said...

Hey you... I wouldn't worry about your concerns... one of the most cussingest (is that a word?) has been a minister... the neat thing about that is that I got to see his human side, and it made me appreciate his work through his church and for God in a more clear light...

Yeah... weird stuff does happen...

:o)

~shoes~

Senorita said...

Wow, this is great. If he was dropped onto your lap in the house of God, I am sure you can take it as a sign that you were at the very least, meant to meet up and date each other.

Queen-Size funny bone said...

Maybe it will go the other way, he won't be in a hurry to become a minister.

Debbie said...

Remarkable! Sometimes you just have to think things do happen for a reason.

Secretia said...

Some relationships just develop very slowly.

Secretia

Just telling it like it is said...

I likey to hear more of this friendship after all you deserve the best

Jeni said...

I agree fully with the words of "Red Shoes!" A pastor we had about 30 years ago here at our church and with whom I had kept in contact with, along with his wife and also another pastor we had and his wife too, all said that they too occasionally use a blue word or two -or ten! They are human and prone, on occasion to the things many of the rest of us also do indulge in from time to time. If your faith is strong, if the attraction between you too is what it needs to be, then go with the flow! And above all, enjoy!

laughingattheslut said...

Not wanting to get involved with a minister is more complicated than you would have to stop swearing and such.

I grew up believing that preachers and missionaries were "called." And that being the wife of a preacher or a missionary was also a calling. You don't marry a minister if you weren't called to the same thing yourself.

And if you wouldn't marry a minister, there is no point in dating one. It will just end with both of you getting hurt.

On the other hand, Queen-Size has a point, and maybe he won't actually become a minister. That is a very slim chance, and I would not get involved on that slim chance, just maybe talk to him and make sure that is still his plan. I did know someone who after years and years of going to school and such that he changed his mind the last year at school. He felt that God wanted him to help people, he just wasn't sure that God meant for him to preach. And I have recently heard of someone else who was caught in a lie right after he had completed school, right before he was to officially become the minister of a certain church, and they asked him to leave.

So there is the slight possibility that you are not called to be a minister's wife, but that you were put in a position to comfort someone whose life isn't going to go where he thought it would.

Maybe you should ask him more about his plans.

Catherine said...

Right after my divorce, I went on a two dates with a Methodist pastor. Date #2 we get tipsy, he makes a move, we end up in bed and he has the smallest wee wee I've ever seen. LOL

Just telling it like it is said...

Catherine that can't be good!!

Renaissance Woman said...

I say just try it and see what happens. I think it sounds interesting and could all work out just great.

shorty said...

Day by Day, Tee....If you're happy, then go for it.

You've been patient and deserve a good man...after the last few you told us about, I think it's worth the wait to see what this guy eventually decides. You're only dating the guy...not living together. Take it slow :)

RedHead said...

I'd like to hear more about your religious experiences, Diva, if you would not mind sharing that knowledge. Are you an orthodox Christian? A Jehovah's Witness? A Reform Jew?

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

This was meant to be...why else would you suddenly think of him? Why also, would you go to church and there he is?? It was meant to be.

So, you cuss...who doesn't? Maybe you are exactly who he needs!!

I can't wait to hear the rest.

RedHead said...

Oops! I typed, "I'd like to hear more about your religious experiences, Diva, if you would not mind sharing that knowledge," but I actually meant that I'd like to read more about Diva's religious experiences on this blog if she would not mind sharing that knowledge. I'm sorry about that typographical error of mine.

L said...

I say hang out with him and see what happens. If either of you don't feel your lifestyles would mesh well, then you can take it from there. In the meantime, just go for it :)

Terri said...

Well, sounds to me as if you God put you in his path or vice versa! He has a plan you know. :o)

This is a great story and I couldn't help but think that you just leave a gaggle of helplessly devoted guys in your wake, pining for you over the years.

(shakes head repetedly while saying "Niiiiiice!!" :o)

Anna said...

Hey Diva, I get the same thing, dream to reality all the time. Nice read. Anna :)

Moooooog35 said...

I had no idea you went to church and stuff.

Now I feel bad for most of my comments.




Just kidding.

Goldilocs said...

ummmm! this is an amazing story! and while I'd like to get caught up in the mushy, lovey dovey, fairytale side of it, let's look at what God did! that is SO awesome! ok, now back to the awesome, mushy, lovey dovey, fairytale side! I love it! It is destiny, no? God doesn't make mistakes ;)