We've all got a past. Past relationships. I always say that past relationships were just preparing you for when the right one comes along.
When we are in those relationships we are happy and everything is right with the world. We take vacations together, take pictures together and buy each other other gifts from time to time. Most of these things we hold on to and cherish because of the memory and sentiment attached.
The problem is when you leave that relationship and ultimately find yourself in a new one. What do you do with those mementos from relationships past?
Some people keep these items tucked away in a box hidden away from the prying eyes of a lover. Some are like me and discard all of those old items (with the exception of a picture here or there proudly displayed in a photo album under an end table).
What happens when the new lover discovers those cherished mementos? If the new love of your life takes issue with finding these things and insists you get rid of them what do you do? Do you cave and throw all of those memories away? Do you dig in your heels and absolutely refuse to comply?
With me, it depends on a lot of factors. If the guy has a picture of his last girl as a wallpaper on his cell phone or computer or displayed on his fridge or night stand then I might take exception with that.
If the items are tucked away somewhere then I might not bust a gasket. Unless the guy talks continuously about his ex, I would not care if he hid those items away somewhere.
If my new man came to my home and insisted I discard pictures in my photo album or throw away a card that might happen to be in my night stand then I might have to kick him to the curb, swiftly. To me that proves that he is a little insecure and I don't do insecure. Well, not anymore.
What do you guys think?
Reimagine journaling
1 year ago
Labels: Dating