Monday, September 10, 2007

Terry

Ok I’m not sure what the hell I should do. Let me give you a little background: I have a male buddy named “Will”. I’ve known Will for many years now. I’ve been to his house, he’s been to mine…really nice guy. Anyway, Will has this buddy named “Terry”. Terry and Will have been friends for MANY…MANY years.

Well somehow Terry saw a picture of me and told Will he wanted to meet me. No problem. Well Terry waited so long in trying to meet that I met a guy and we started to date seriously so Terry was OUT. Will gave a cookout at his home for his young daughters’ birthday. I was attending with my then boyfriend. I was told by Will that Terry would be there as well. Cool. I was glad as I was finally going to get to see this dude in person. Well I arrive with said boyfriend and ask Will if Terry was still there and he informed me that Terry had left. I was slightly disappointed because I wanted to see him face to face. Anyway we stay and have a good time then leave after awhile.

Fast forward a week later and I was told that Terry was in fact still there but he was in the house looking out onto the back patio deck at us. I, at first, (and still do) think that was not true. I think they got something mixed up because that doesn’t sound very rational. Terry claimed he didn’t want to face me then with my boyfriend there. Sounds strange to me but oh well.

This all took place about 7 years ago. Over the course of the years Terry and I have had a few email and IM chats where he wanted to meet, I agree then he would somehow stand me up.

I hate being stood up so I would never contact him for an explanation. I would just ignore him from then on. He’d try contacting me again at some point then I’d give in and chat with him then he’d make some point of asking for a date then…boom! Stand me up all over again.

Well, I hadn’t spoken to Terry in about 2 years and all of a sudden he starts to IM me last week. Now mind you he now has a woman that he is living with.

He again asks to meet me and again promises to not stand me up this time and all that jazz. He also made it perfectly clear that even though he is very unhappy in his current relationship he has no intention of leaving this woman.

With all this said, why did my dumb ass reluctantly cave in again and agree to meet him at a restaurant near my house for a drink?

What the hell am I thinking? I should tell him to take a flying leap shouldn’t I?

22 People saying stuff:

Mizrepresent said...

Your first thought is always right....you know the one about him taking a flying leap...yep, that's the one. Take care girl!

dmarks said...

"He also made it perfectly clear that even though he is very unhappy in his current relationship he has no intention of leaving this woman."

That paragraph is the most important one to me. I've seen this many times, and can't remember an instant where it went well. Be very careful.

Queen of the Mayhem said...

I think you should! He sounds like a loser and you deserve MUCH better than that!

Of course.....I was never too good at chosing men...at least before my husband!

Sounds like a disaster waiting to happen! DON'T DO IT! You need a man who is going to worship the ground you walk on....and he does not sound like the one! :)

Jenny! said...

Hmmmm, he sounds kind of fishy to me!

abbagirl74 said...

Yes, take a flying leap in into the first pile of donkey dung he finds. Loser boys... what to do?

laughingattheslut said...

Not only is this a wonderful opportunity to stand him up for a change, but I think that it would good if you could somehow find a way for his girlfriend to find out about his plans.

not fainthearted said...

Yup. Flying. without a parachute.

You don't deserve the kind of crazy he's bringing to the party.

Vi vi vi vooom!!!!!!!! said...

Dont go there Girl! You deserve better than that. Stand HIM up!

Freckle Face Girl said...

He sounds a bit strange... what would be the point?

lisa q. said...

yep, this guy's is a butt! maybe you should stand him up this time! :D

Bad Girl said...

Tell him to take a flying leap. You've given him enough chances. Block him, don't respond to him, and leave it. If you've already made plans with him...then you be the one doing the standing up. But he'd probably never notice anyway. Sounds like Terry's a really selfish person.

Opinionated Diva said...

Cut dude loose completely...for good. There's something completely NOT right about him.

Queen of Dysfunction said...

Tell him to take a flying leap. You have much better ways to spend your time.

Sizzle said...

maybe it is time you stand him up?

i have met guys like that. curiosity is the only logical reason i can give for saying yes to them. i've done it. it's incredibly disappointing. they are just the wankers they have made themselves out to be except you are stuck sitting there with them listening to their BS.

Cinnkitty said...

Curiosity... he's been a "blank page" of your life for over 7 years now. You have to be dying to actually meet him and find out first hand if he's just nuts or what. :)

Curiosity killed the cat...but satisfaction brought it back.
Meow!

Fergie said...

I say stand him up this time. Clearly you don't need to waste anymore time or mental energy on Terry.

CarmenSinCity said...

I like everyone else's ideas - STAND HIM UP - let him see what it's like to be stood up.

IslandGirl4Ever2 said...

I think Terry is really your friend, Will and he's messing with your brain... Maybe Will has a "secret crush" on you!!!

Honey-Libra said...

Blank face.............

WOW I can imagine why he would want to meet up since he clearly is living with someone does he expect you to be the sideline ho...

I'm sure you'll stand him up LOL...let me stop

Cute With A Cute Bag to Boot!!! said...

This man has no good intentions for you. Let him be someone elses problem. He has already showed you he is not dependable, so if his intentions was just to be friends (which we both know that's some BS)he would at least need to be dependable. He has showed you on mulitple occasions that he is not. There is a big warning sign on the lable...DON'T IGNORE IT!!!

SSC said...

Tell him to go kiss off and that you are done with high school. But it he still insists on playing drama, emphasize that Beverly Hills 90210 has re-funds. However you have fast forwarded on with your life and you don't allow for u-turns and don't apologize for his sorry ass excuses.

YOU ARE TOO GOOD FOR HIM!!!

Sheletha said...

Standing him up sounds a little remedial. Tit for tat type bullshit. He would understand why you did what you did. Call him back and tell him that you rethought the situation and it seems like its a bad idea. He had his opportunity to meet you 10 times over, yet he acted like a little boy rather than a man. Giving him a call cancelling is going to throw him for a loop because for
1.unexpected- he expect you to act like a typical woman---never be typical
2. you are being the bigger person.
3. you are just not interested in being a jump off.

"He also made it perfectly clear that even though he is very unhappy in his current relationship he has no intention of leaving this woman."

This is something Ive heard time and time again. They always are not in a happy relationship, thinking that would give him an out if needed. The grass always looks greener, and he wants something he can't have. Dude has a problem with committment.