Thursday, April 22, 2010

Ask Tee

Here is the latest installment of Ask Tee. I know it's been awhile but I hadn't had any really good questions lately. Enjoy!

Dear Tee,

I have a serious problem and I hope you can give me a little perspective. I am a woman and have this female best friend. We've been best friends for 25 years. The problem is that within the last 7 years I've come to the realization that I am bisexual. More specifically I've started developing feelings for her.

I don't know what to do. Should I tell her or just hide my feelings? Help.


My Answer

Dear S,

Well your telling her depends on a couple of things. First off, do you think there is a chance that she might return your feelings? Has she given you ANY indication that she'd be willing to enter into some sort of relationship with you? If not then keep your mouth shut.

The reason I say that is because you will then make her feel uncomfortable and that will put a wedge between the two of you. If you can live with that outcome then go for it but my hunch is that your friendship means much more to you then to dismiss it so casually.

Good luck!

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6 People saying stuff:

Moooooog35 said...

Dear S,

Tell her, then take video if she's up for it. Send copies to me.

Thanks in advance.

Senorita said...

I agree with your advice. Make sure you are absolutely sure that she feels the same way or else you may lose a friend.

It's better to wait or not say anything at all.

Or tell her that you're bisexual if she doesn't already know and see how she handles that. If she's okay with that, she will probably accept the news better.

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

Good advice. Why say something if she doesn't reciprocate those same feelings?

The Dish said...

Regardless if my friend of 25 years was male or female, ruining that for the chance of sexual chemistry is so not worth it!

imbeingheldhostage said...

yikes. I wouldn't have known what to advise on that one...

Just telling it like it is said...

What a great answer I totally agree...