Monday, April 26, 2010

How Do You Do It?

I have a question for all of you. We all know that as we get older it is increasingly more difficult for men and women to meet and connect. When we were younger it was so easy to meet someone you liked and you guys hooked up. It was fun and easy and there were no expectations.

As we get older we start developing all this baggage that we carry around with us constantly. That baggage is a barrier that makes it difficult for others to break through and get close to us. When we do manage to get into a relationship we have so many expectations now then before.

With all that said, when you spot someone that you want to get to know how do you make that happen? For the ladies, do you sit back and wait for the guy to come to you? Do you send a drink his way? Do you walk up to him and start a conversation? If you do approach a guy what do you say as an opener? Men, do you approach the lady or do you wait for her to come to you? What is your opening line to get to know her?

It can be very scary tyring to approach someone out of the blue because you have no idea what this person will say or do and no one wants to get embarrassed or have their feelings hurt.

So tell me, what do you do when wanting to get to know someone? You can tell me, it'll be just between you and me.

As for me, I just walk up to the guy and say 'you are going to be mine' and drag him away by his hair but that's just my technique, it's not for everyone.

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12 People saying stuff:

Moooooog35 said...

I usually comment on her blog.


How you doin?

JStar said...

I notice a guy that I am interested and keep it moving...If it is meant to be it will be and he will approach or we will meet some how....I REFUSE to approach a man...I dunno maybe its because I have a fear of rejection lol...But yea, he HAS to come to me...and if he doesnt, then on to the next one lol

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

Girl, if it works to grab him by the hair and drag him away, you may need to write a book and teach others your techniques!!

Jeni said...

Sheesh,Girl -this question is really taxing my pea brain! Been so darned long that I was out, in the marketplace, ya know, that I have no clue what lines or moves I might have made. Obviously though, since I am not involved with ANYONE nor have I been in many a moon, whatever moves or lines I may have utilized don't work very well so would be of no help to anyone else to try them then. Good luck and you're still young enough to be able to think of alternative actions to a reaction too.
Peace!

Vi said...

It's been so long since I've fancied anyone, I can't remember.

Red Shoes said...

The ones Ive been involved with lately, I've met through friends... I need to stop that because its not working well for me... I seem to be attracting married women lately... *shrugs*

I'm looking for answers... I will be back for more replies!!

~shoes~

Stesha said...

I walk up to him and say nothing. I just turn and walk away. Subtle sex appeal. Now, don't take my advice. It has only worked on one man...my husband:)

Hugs and Mocha,
Stesha

The Dish said...

Ha, ha! Actually The Husband is the only man that I have ever asked out. I hounded him everyday for a month before he finally agreed to go out with me. I say, if you want it, go after it! Nothing ventured, nothing gained. But then, I might be extremely extroverted!

Ranger Tom said...

My tried-and-true line I use when I meet a new lady:

"Hi there! Can I buy you a house?"

Ordinary Girl said...

My problem is not in the approach - which has always tended to veer between waiting to be approached and doing the approaching, depending on my mood - it's that I hardly ever see men that I fancy! Especially ones without wedding rings on.

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