Tuesday, October 9, 2007

The Ex Files Continued....

Ok, so after months and months of fighting and unhappiness the hubby and I decided to call it quits. Albeit amidst a flurry of name calling, accusations and threats.

I had had enough and it was time to end this farce of a marriage. I told him in no uncertain terms to leave and leave immediately. I requested my house key and car key back (his car was in MY name) and he refused so unfortunately the police had to get involved. Needless to say he left that evening.

I was not sure were he was going to spend the night and frankly I did not care. I was just relieved that I was finally done with him and his foolishness.

Over the course of a couple days he contacted me to make arrangements to gather some of his belongings left behind. In that conversation I found out he moved in with our next door neighbor.

Now don’t get me wrong, I suspected something nefarious was going on between them. Call it woman’s intuition if you like. (that is for real by the way) There were always subtle hints that something was going on between them but I said nothing as I didn’t have any concrete proof of said alleged affair.

So, as I was saying, he in fact moved in with her. In her ONE BEDROOM apartment. I was LIVID. That is the height of disrespect. How could someone do something like that to another human being?

I would be forced to look out of my window daily to the sight of them traipsing in and out of their little love nest together. Can I tell you thoughts of murder quickly spread rampid. If only I could have figured out a way to do it without getting caught. Hmmmmmm…Oh well.

I had a married couple upstairs from me that saw everything that was going on. (As did every one else in the neighborhood) One day as I was sitting at home doing whatever I was doing when I heard a knock at the door. When I looked out of the peep hole I saw it was the wife from upstairs. I opened the door and greeted her with a warm smile.

She said, “We know what is going on and we just wanted you to know how sorry we are.” and handed me a vase of flowers. I was so overwhelmed with emotion that I tried to quickly get her out of my doorway before the tears that were welling up began to pour out like a tsunami.

That was a very rough time. I did manage to get my “digs” in though…

35 People saying stuff:

Catherinette Singleton said...

FYI: your neighbor was a ho. Just in case you weren't sure, I'm here to validate you. H-O!

Karen said...

I am a divorce lawyer and I felt like I was having an initial consult with a new client. Sorry you had to go through that crap. So often men are jerks. Tell us about your "digs"!

dmarks said...

The upstairs neighbor: awesome!

Vi vi vi vooom!!!!!!!! said...

It's little things like what your neighbour did that help us realise, there ARE good people out there.

MysTery said...

I guess the flowers were nice. But heck! They saw what was going on the whole time anyway!

KIKI said...

Ok...so from reading the previous post and then this one...I WANT TO BEAT HIS ASS FOR YOU...I know it's over & all...but just say the word...I got Ray-Ray and dem on speed dial!LOL

I think I'd still be sittin in jail if it had been me, for beating the hale outta both of them.

GurlNexxDoor said...

Wow. You know sometimes I wonder where peoples heads and minds are. Just remember what goes around comes around.

Erica AP said...

Wow... That sucks. And I can't believe he did all this right under your nose!

Sizzle said...

seriously!? next DOOR?! that's the lowest and cruelest. i'm so glad you are not with him. he's beneath you.

DurtyMo said...

I.CAN.NOT.BEAR.ALL.THESE.PAUSES.IN.THE.STORY! SHOOT!!!

My goodness! Can you please get on with the story???

*B* Fab said...

Whoa! Soap opera for real...where's the rest!!!

The Ambiguous Blob said...

ouch. for reals - big huge freaking terrible ouch. I'm so sorry you went through that.

SSC said...

OH MY GOSH!!! MY EX did that to me with my roommate. He cheated on me with my bestfriend!! I HATE MEN. The good news is that after that I lost 25lbs and looked hot and went on with my own life. And now I live so much better, and have TRUE friends and a Great lover that doesn't wonder!!!!!

magnoliapeach said...

You've got to be kidding me!!! Girl that's some "Waiting to Exhale" burn his stuff in the driveway type stuff!!!

So what happened next?!

dc_speaks said...

um...

for you to be as cool as you are. You get my vote for calm and cool award.

I was reading and my mouth just dropped with the next door neighbor.

I still give you mad props!

peace, homegirl!

lisa q. said...

what an arse! please share the digs!

Girly_Girl said...

Oh, Darling. I am sorry for your trouble but happy that fool is out of your life. Good riddance!

Thanks for checking out my interview!

CarmenSinCity said...

Wow!!!!! Girl - that is insane. I have had boyfriends leave me for my best friend and I even had a supposedly best friend get me fired from a job, but to have a husband move next door? CRAZY! You poor thing.

I'm really impressed that your neighbor was so kind. I guess there are some genuine people out there too.

E2Deep said...

Words of encouragement: Be strong and have faith that everything will be ok. He's soon going to learn he shouldn't treat women in any such way.

Shai said...

Wow! I was going to say he had balls.
Actually he was ball-less.

That was sweet of your neighbor.

Ms. Behaving said...

Damn @ your next door neighbor. That was straight foul of her!!

**Says alot about her that she'd settle for some sloppy @ss seconds**

Going to follow up on the beginning right about NOW!!

Ann said...

It's been said before but I just had to chime in also to say he was an ass and she was a ho. Then again, I think it's a rule that all ex husbands are assholes.

Mine took some girl to the movies on the very night that my dad died (I was in Florida dealing with funeral arrangements and he was in Houston laughing at Eddie Murphy "Raw" with some little ho he worked with.) I was gone 3 weeks between the time my dad was in the hospital and the funeral and all and one of my friends that lived in our appartment complex had seen him with 3 different women during the time I was gone. Nice, huh?

Oh well, at least I found out what a dog he was before we had kids together. Needless to say, I packed up and left him after I went back home and found out what he'd been doing while I was gone. Here we are almost 20 years later and I'm married to a wonderful man, I have 3 beautiful kids and he is currently separated (maybe even divorced by now) from his THIRD wife. Living well is the BEST revenge!!

Freckle Face Girl said...

I can't even imagine the anger & pain. Ouch! Good thing you kicked him out.

Stepping Over the Junk said...

HOLY COW!

B_More BAP Life said...

Sis! I'm sorry to hear that! Keep your head up :-)

david mcmahon said...

Sorry you had to go thru that but everyone needs an upstairs neighbour who brings flowers.

I wish you strength ....

Seven said...

That was a nice gesture...the flowers. That was too sweet.

Betty Boob Hug said...

Ah, where was his head at? I know! In his penis!!

I'm sorry you had that happen to you, it's a gross sickening feeling in the pit of your stomach.

Ann(ie) said...

I think your ex husband and my ex husband are lost lost brothers. I lovingly refer to my ex as fucktard. It fits him. He found a waitress and they ran off into the sunset, but at least I didn't have to watch it and live it every day. UGH. Ho is right.
Tell me about the digs. =) It will only make me happy!!!!!

Mustafa ┼×enalp said...

Your blog is very nice:)

soumynona said...

Not the way to treat a Diva I tell ya! can you say Lorena Bobbitt

tAnYeTTa said...

wait!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!i have to start from older posts and find my way back to this post.

Sojourner G said...

If everyone cared as much as upstairs neighbor, that kind of crap would've never happened. Glad you persevered.

"Vengence is mine saith the Lord"

Kelley said...

OH how what an ass. More fool the girl taking him in knowing what he is like.
You deserve and will find better. Then you can rub his nose in it!

Sending you cyber flowers from my little corner of the world.


Oh and for the commenter that said 'Your blog is very nice' creeped me a little. I was expecting a picture of Borat with his little mankini thing going on!

Mizrepresent said...

Gurl, i am so feeling you this...it hadn't been a week since i moved out of our house that he had another woman living in...so i know, oh how i know how you felt.