Friday, October 26, 2007

Would I be missed?

I was reading a fellow bloggers sad, pathetic, melancholy post today and it made me rather sad, pathetic and melancholy.

His post was questioning whether anyone would miss him if he died. It got me to thinking. Hell, people tell me I'm a joy to be around, (shut up!) fun and all that crap but we are not really close at all. I wouldn't call those people friends. It's pretty hard for me to allow people close enough to me to have a deep, meanful relationship.

So with that said, if I were to suddenly die, would anyone really miss me? Would people come to my funeral? I have always imagined my funeral being really dismal with like no one in attendance. Sure, my brothers and nieces and nephews would attend. Maybe my boss (out of a sense of obligation) and a very few of my friends. Other then that, the church would be empty. That's a pretty sad scenrio. I mean...who would honestly know I was gone let alone come to my funeral.

Would my brothers have enough wherewithall to grab my cell phone and call my friends and collegues to tell them what happened? Some how I don't see them doing that. They are not the most detailed, forward thinking of individuals.

Hmmmm....Am I the only other person that wonders these kinds of things from time to time?

21 People saying stuff:

Noe said...

I have an envelope with a long 'essay' to be read at my funeral. I dont really care who's gonna be there, but I know how sad some people will be when I die.
I guess we're always wondering who's gonna miss us when we die...
I just know that most of my friends, the real/true friends will miss me.
But from time to time I change the music to be played at my funeral. lol. it's funny... but we all think about that. :)

Freckle Face Girl said...

I used to think like that, but I have come to realize that you have no idea how many people are affected by someone's death. Word travels fast and people come out of the woodwork to share their sorrow. My dad died 2 years ago & random people are still telling me how sorry they are and that they miss him. He wasn't even the friendly type.

KIKI said...

I personally don't want alot of people at my funeral. They say you only have a handful of TRUE friends in your lifetime, and other than my family those are the only ones I would care about being there. I don't want some big funeral, with a bunch of fake-crying folks slobberin & snottin all over my corpse. Ya'll mf's weren't true friends when I was alive...don't come up in here now with all that bs now that I'm dead!

I'm content knowing that during my "homecoming" I will be surrounded by the few that TRULY loved me; the rest can kick rocks!

Mizrepresent said...

One of the most celebrated funerals i have ever been to, was that of a distant cousin. It was full from roof to rafters, black, white, young and old, family and friends, all singing this man's praises. I looked around the room, took in the comments and thought dayum, i want to be loved like this, i want to touch like this. I knew why everyone was there to celebrate his homegoing, he was a beautiful man, in every sense of the word, he lived by his words and deeds and touched everyone he met. I strive to be just like him, if i succeed, then i rest assure that my homegoing will be filled from roof to rafters.

Sizzle said...

man, that's morbid...but yeah, it is something i've thought about.

ANO said...

I think you'd be missed and I think this topic crosses most peoples minds from time to time!

Ann(ie) said...

I've thought about this, too. Here's how I envision my funeral:
My friends saying how great I was and telling stories and my family looking on in confusion saying, oh wow she sounds pretty cool.

YOU will be missed and don't you dare die. thankyouverymuch!

Eileen Dover said...

I've thought about mine, too.

I don't think you have a thing to worry about.

Now me, I'm kind of sad I won't be around to hear people talk about how wonderful I am. Err, was. ;)

Vi vi vi vooom!!!!!!!! said...

That was the sad thing with AC's cremation. There was only 8 of us there. But I'm sure the place would have been filled if more people knew we even had our own service for him.

Organized Noise said...

You are not alone. I think about that more often than I really want to admit. I wonder about my funeral and life after I'm gone, not that I'm ready to check out or anything.

lisa q. said...

i personally don't worry about i guess...those who come, will come...those that will miss me are the ones close enough to me to miss...those are the ones that count...

Karen said...

I have honestly never thought about this. I am sure I have enough family and friends to make a ncie turnout. But honestly the funeral is not for the dead person (in my opinion). It is for the people who survived. I won't be there so I just hope anyone who comes has fun.

*~*Cece*~* said...

I've belonged to an online community/board (5 years) and we've become such good friends and have made it a point to have other contact information (other than email addy's and blog links) so we'd know if anything (knock on wood) tragic happens in each other's lives. Yes, I'd be missed. Yes my friends would deeply be missed. Luckily I've got a large Mexican family I know the chrch wouldn't be empty.

Now I'm bummed out. Dang. lol

Princess Extraordinaire said...

I've wondered those things before and sometimes it really depresses me....It's nice to know I am not alone in my neurosis....

CapCity said...

u'd be missed, Sistah Diva:-). taking a hiatus break to check on my blog-folk!

DurtyMo said...

If this aint some morbid shyt here! Dang! But I gotta admit, I've thought about it and I know EVERYBODY will miss Durty. No other way around it. *j/k* But seriously, why in the world would you waste time thinkin about what people will feel/think after you're gone? Worry more if the people you love will miss you when you're not in the room or are out of town. Isn't that more important? *shrug* I'm just sayin...

Suzel's Sass said...

When I was younger I used to imagine friends or people that slighted me feeling really really bad that I died. I had even thought of sad songs to be played. Wow - sad.

dc_speaks said...

um...nope. i never contemplated the goings on after I'm gone. i just want my surviving loved ones to enjoy the rest of their lives.

david mcmahon said...

G'day Diva,

I'm sure this thought goes through the minds of many people, no matter how loved or secure they may be.

The greatest human desire is to be valued by someone.

You have presented it succinctly, accurately and very sensitively.

Another 48 hours and my novel will be done, edited and handed over to Penguin. Will be back visiting blogs after that.

By the way, keep an eye on my blog for the updated announcement on Aussiejourno's Weekly Blog Awards - and please spread the word if you can.

Cheers

David

MysTery said...

Yes, I have thought about this before. I imagine plenty of people will be at my funeral.
At those times that I don't think many people will attend, I think that is God's way of telling me that I need to touch more people's lives. :)

Just my take on it.

Mister Underhill said...

I'm not sure anyone would even know I died.