Take a moment and think over your life. Think of all the people that have come in and out of your life. Think of the person you are today.
Would you say that all of the people you currently have in your life actually belong there?
Are your current friends in the same space you are in?
I've asked myself this question on many occasions. In thinking about my current circle of friends I often wonder why we are still friends actually. We are all in different places in our lives. All of my friends with the exception of 2 have kids. I don't. I have the ability to come and go and do as I please and none of my friends here in Baltimore can do that. They have alot more restrictions placed on them then I do. They are not as spontaneous as I am. None of them here in Baltimore have jobs except one of them. I have a career that I love. They are not as willing to take as many risks as I am.
I have one friend, K, who lives in NC that seems to be the only one of my friends that I have anything in common with but that heifer lives in NC! We both have the same career path which is how we met many years ago. I think that our similarities are why we have become so close over the years.
I think I keep my friends in Baltimore around out of a sense of obligation because we have been friends for 20 + years in most cases.
I know for a fact that is a major reason why I can't wait to move to Atlanta; so that I can meet a whole new group of friends that have the same likes and dislikes as I and have a similar lifestyle. I really need to bond with more like minded people and I don't think I can do that here in Baltimore.
I would never stop being friends with my current girls here in Baltimore but I so need a new circle to hang in. I have grown so much as a person over the years and none of my friends here seem to be doing the same and it's a little frustrating for me. I, obviously, can not talk to my B-more friends about this so you guys are it.
My girl in NC, K, she and I have talked about this at great lengths before and she totally gets where I am coming from.
Have you ever felt you've outgrown your friends?
Stay tuned for tomorrow post: Are You There God It's Me Diva?