Monday, January 3, 2011

Day 27 - Does Honesty Really Pay?

So most of us believe that being honest with someone is usually the best policy. We should be able to be as tactfully honest as possible when confronted with giving our opinion but when is it the best policy to not be so honest?

Most of the time I am honest with people because I want them to be honest with me but when it comes to possibly hurting someones feelings I tend to be a little less honest then usual. There are times though, when I could care less about hurting feelings. Those tend to be times when a little tough love is in order. I'm good at dolling out tough love.

If someone asks be if I like a particular outfit I'll give them my very honest opinion with a healthy dose of tact of course.

I don't think that being honest in every situation is necessarily the best policy. Take for instance you are on a date with someone you like. This is maybe the 3rd or 4th date and they decided to cook for you. You taste this absolutely awful mess and instantly want to puke. What do you do? You really, really, really like this person and want to get to know them. In this case, I would grin and bear it and keep my trap shut about how bad the food really is. I'd wait until we were a little more solid and comfortable with each other and very casually and tactfully let them know they no longer need to ever prepare food for me again.

7 People saying stuff:

Freckle Face Girl said...

It is generally a good idea to be polite, especially when it comes to some things like home cooked meals. I had a friend that invited me over for Christmas dinner once. It was the worst food I've ever had. That is when it is the thought that really counts. From then on, I just made sure to invite her before she invited me.

Red Shoes said...

Being honest without hurting someone's feelings... is it always possible?

The last woman I was involved with had asked me to marry her and move to another city with her. I agreed to both... then one night... RIGHT AFTER sex, she told me she didn't love me anymore...

W~T~F?!?!?!?!

That was sure honest...

It sure hurt...

Was there another way for her to tell me??

Probably not...

~shoes~

Mrs. K said...

Hey there, thanks for stopping by. Interesting post. I do agree that sometimes honesty is not always best. But the problem is that I'm a bad liar so it will show on my face or in my body language if I don't approve. I guess I've gotta work on my poker face. :-)

Ami said...

I think I'd be dishonest... feign a sudden tummy ache. An urgent family emergency. Something.

'Cause eating stuff I hate?

Not gonna happen.

Amber said...

Great topic! I think there's honest and then there's tact. The two don't always go hand-in-hand. :)

Andrea said...

Hey Lady! Thanks so much for stopping by and for the compliment!:)
I am a firm believer that there is a tactful way to say anything,so it's ok to be honest in a sticky situation as long as it's not done in a rude way, but at the same time I don't think honesty is always the best policy. I think it's ok not to be honest when the truth isn't benefitting the person in anyway and not knowing the truth isn't harming them in anyway.Of course that only holds true with small things like lying about liking a meal. When it comes to cheating or bigger issues, then it's a whole other ballgame.

Debbie said...

There is a line between completely blunt honesty and being kind. I think it is important to be kind:)