Wednesday, May 23, 2007

My well is now dry

Since I have not been fortunate enough to have met any of my fellow bloggers here in blogoshere, mostly because I am new to this blogging thing, I must start this post by stating that I am a pretty generous person when it comes to my friends. I have loaned money and given shelter to friends when in need.

One year I was involved in a minor car accident. There was no personal injury but a good amount of damage to my car. Well, the insurance company decided to give me a nice chunk of change to repair my car. Great!!! After much consideration I decided, ‘To hell with this piece of shit car.’ I used the insurance check to purchase a new car. YYYAAAAHOOOOO!!!! So that means I had a banged up , albeit drivable, car sitting in the parking lot of my apartment complex. An old high school buddy asked if he could have the car since I no longer needed it. I, being the wonderful human being that I am (*ok...shadddup! Stop snickering) decided to give it to him as he had no car at all.

I told him that I needed to cancel that old car from my insurance and he’ll need to get his own. He begged me to not cancel the insurance just yet. “Give me a little time to get the insurance money together.” he says.

I, like a dumb ass said, “OK. I’ll give you a few weeks to get the money together to get your own insurance.”

Every time I approached him in regards to my cancelling this car from my insurance he had a sob story about how he needed more time and I kept agreeing.

Well one day after months of this run around I told him that I am canceling the insurance the next day, no if, ands, or buts. He sadly went along with that. Now what my dumb ass SHOULD have done was to take the tags off the damn car but I am to stupid for that…..nooooooo….I let him drive with the tags and no insurance.

Well, while he had the car he racked up 2 tickets and managed to get the car impounded. Even with this, he never went to the impound lot to retrieve the tags!

One ticket he received was in Baltimore City and they offered an amnesty so instead of paying the exorbeted amount of $840 I only had to pay $20. WHEW! That was great so I did that. Another ticket was in Baltimore County and those bitches never give amnesty so I was required to pay the penalty laced amount of $579!

Oh, this is not the end.......because the car was impounded and the tags NOT returned to MVA I had to pay a penalty...oh you'll love this.....of $1500! Yep!

I mentioned these fees to my buddy but his ass never came off of ANY money. I PAID ALL OF HIS TICKETS AND FEES!!! Never again will I give anyone anything that has my name attached to it!

With all that said and done, I didn't kick his ass to the curb......I decided to not let money ruin a friendship....it's only money.....right? Hmmmmmmmm......

Lesson learned. Trust me.

18 People saying stuff:

Malnurtured Snay said...

Wow.

Sounds like you should stop giving cars away ... or at least get some collatoral before you do again!

Ms. Behaving said...

That was foul. He totally took advantage!! It's no wonder why we can't be nice to people these days.

Erica AP said...

I have lent money and also never expect if back even though I ask for it often. I hate being taken advantage of.

lisa q. said...

OMG girl! what a horrid thing he put you through...you are such a good person and to be taken advantage of like that is just wretched...

Black Girl Interrupted said...

wow, you are way too nice. i would have called the goons on his ass.

JustMeWriting said...

AWWWW MAN...that's wild...again, people are something else...they always seem to bite the hand the feeds them the most. Sorry you had to go through that...stuff like that can really harden your heart, but I hope it doesn't

Vi vi vi vooom!!!!!!!! said...

He was an ass for doing that too you. Lessen learnt, take the tags off (whatever they are, dont have them in the UK/USA). But dont ever stop being giving. I'm sure you'll get it back from someone else, tenfold.

CarmenSinCity said...

Oh my god girl! You are a NICER person that I am. I hold a grudge like it's my job. I would be so pissed. Do you live in Baltimore? I'm from Severna Park. I've gotten MANY tickets in Baltimore. Been to jail overnight there a few times too!

KIKI said...

Diva, I am so feelin you. Been there, done that. But like vi vi said dont let it change who you are, you will eventually be rewarded for your generosity. Remeber...He never puts on you more than you can bear.

KIKI said...

And oh yeah...just caught the link...thanks for the love Diva!

Brotha Buck said...

never, never, never, never, never again.

puffin pie said...

you should never ever ever do something like that again. i feel like that is enough for me to never talk to somebody again!!! he obviously didn't care that he put you through changes on his behalf so he's not worth keeping around anyway! KICK HIM TO THE CURB!

tAnYeTTa said...

Can I borrow $5? Just kidding.

Friends/Family and money NEVER EVER mix. EVER.

Sorry you had to learn such a valuable lesson at your expense. Geez, you are a good friend.

I once loaned money to my mom and made her sign a
an agreement. It was only $100. You know i'm wrong for that one! ---I ain't right! I'm just paranoid of getting played like a fiddle. LOL

dc_speaks said...

excellent post and nice to cyber meet you...i think i'll walk around your house and take a peek.

have a great weekend and enjoy the holiday.

Laters.

CapCity said...

Take his azzzz to Judge Mathis! LOL!

yerdoingitwrong said...

You've got a big heart, girl. I love people like you! But, **yes** we do finally learn our lesson in life after being burned a few times. *sigh* I'll bet there's good karma coming your way, love.

Queen of Dysfunction said...

Ouch. Sounds like you were a good friend to him, but he was a crappy friend to you. Dump his ass.

Lu said...

As Mya (Girlfriends) would say: OH HELL TO DA Nall!!!!!!!! There is NO WAY in the world I would let that go down. You must be a sweet heart, but don't let people take your kindness for weakness