Tuesday, May 22, 2007

There is nothing wrong with you

Oh my dear friend, I heard your plight. You are a beautiful, desirable woman. You have very womanly needs and wants. I feel your pain of not being able to enjoy the splendor of intimacy that most men and women enjoy.

I see that you are blaming yourself but please don’t. Even though most men and women enjoy the closeness that two people share in the privacy behind closed doors, those very grown up times, you are not alone in not wanting the same. There are many others just like you that cringe at the thought of having that man who loves you touch you in the most loving way possible. Maybe you are afraid he doesn’t really love you. Maybe you have never been loved before.

Truth be told, most men have absolutely no clue how to love a woman. They have no idea how to touch and caress us. A simple look and caress can be the hottest thing two people can share.

Maybe the men in your life had no idea that the mere sound of their voice could send shivers through your body.

Most men think pounding away inside you should do the trick and feel quite angry and put off when they realize it doesn’t.

My friend, you need so much more. You feel because you have not experienced the gentle love of a man that something is wrong with you but you must realize nothing is further from the truth.

My friend, there is nothing wrong with you. You are not alone.

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laughingattheslut said...

Poor friend who is having this problem. I hope this is something new for her, and she hasn't been suffering for years with no one to talk to about it.

Even under the best of circumstances, your first time is probably going to suck. And, if you were not expecting your first time to suck, you get it into your head that there is something wrong with you, and then your second time will probably suck, and so on. You tense up and just never enjoy it.

There is a tiny chance that there is something physically wrong with you. But if that's the case it is probably something minor that could be fixed at a clinic. Don't panic, just go get a doctor to have a look.

As we have talked about before, sometimes the guy is just too big. No one tells you that for some reason.

Sometimes after having sex that was a bit rough or having sex with a partner that just never seems to get tired or maybe going away for a romantic weekend after you haven't had sex in a while, you end up with a UTI or something similar. You have a bruise somewhere that you can't see, and it hurts. So then after it happens again you start to associate UTIs with romantic weekends. So then you don't enjoy romantic weekends as much. And then you stress about it, and stress leads to yeast infections. You could go on like that for years.

And that's all pretty normal stuff.

And another thing, don't get it into your head that your partner knows everything just because he's had more experience. If you don't like something that he's doing, that should be enough. Tell him to back off.

Princess Extraordinaire said...

I feel for your friend......I am glad she has you to help her through..or is she you?

Ms. Prudish Diva said...

Wow Diva.. do we know each other? Cuz I see u from Baltimore too and I feel like ur talkin to me... lol! J/K.. good post. I'll definitely be back

Brie said...

lol i felt like you were talking to me too!

Vi vi vi vooom!!!!!!!! said...

Some men have no clue.

tAnYeTTa said...

wow. sorry your friend is going thru that.

you gave some great advice.

i am a very vocal person. i let my needs and wants be known. i also ask for feedback in the loving department. i'm trying to get it right or atleast be in the right ballpark.

the worse thing in loving someone is assumptions. asuuming that they like a wet tongue stuck in their ear when they clearly HATE That. Ok nevermind. :)