Monday, April 2, 2007

The Ex 8 years later

Last year I was walking in the mall just minding my own business when I saw my ex-husband in the distance. I have not told you all about “The Ex Husband” yet so bear with me. As he approached me from the distance a multitude of thoughts and emotions came to mind. First I was in shock because I hadn’t seen him in about 8 years. Second thought was should I be cold and malevolence toward him because of the way he treated me during our miserable marriage and the subsequent separation? Should I give him a severe tongue lashing for all his evil doings? I pondered all of this as he walked toward me because I was truly frozen in the very spot I stood. Ok, he is close to me now, what do I do? Oh noooo! He is reaching to give me a hug! This is the moment! What do I do???? I didn’t want to make him think I cared about him or his feelings nor that I had forgiven him for what he had done. After all of the internal drama going on I simply decided to just return his hug and back away, smile and say “What are you doing here?” Truth be told, I don’t harbor any ill will toward the man. I actually have no feelings toward him one way or the other. Hell, it had been over 8 years. If I heard he won $1 million dollars, I couldn’t care less. If I heard he died I couldn’t care less. You get the point?

Well we actually stand there and chat for a few minutes about nothing really just how we each have been doing since the 8 years since we’ve last spoken. It was all very generic and civil. As we stand there talking a young woman walks up and speaks to the ex. He introduces us and she gives me a half hearted “Hello” which I return. As she was leaving he said to her “Oh yeah, I need to talk to you about your girl.” Apparently, this young woman is best friends with his current girlfriend. I immediately told him to stay away from her because he will fuck up their friendship just like he did my one time best friend “W”. He said something to my best friend of 10 years which made her end our friendship. To this day I still have no idea what it was he said. He just shrugged it off. This guy is self serving and manipulative and nothing he touches could ever turn out correct.

About 5 minutes after the woman leaves, the ex’s cell phone rings and it’s his current girlfriend checking up on him. I just snickered because I knew that woman called her friend and told her the ex was with me. I can imagine how that conversation went, “Hello.”

“Hey ‘new girlfriend’, guess what I just saw?”


“I just saw your man talking to his ex wife.”

“No he’s not!!!!”

“Oh yes he is girl! I can’t believe he in that mall just talking to that bitch all in broad daylight and whatnot.”

“I’mma call his ass right now!”

HAHAHAHA!!! I truly felt sorry for her because he is going to put her through hell just like he did me. He has not changed at all. He is still doing the same crap over and over again.

Oh well, I am so relieved I am out of that situation. The thought of him now makes me physically ill.

How can someone you cared so much about just end up having such the complete opposite reaction for you?


6 People saying stuff:

Princess Extraordinaire said...

He came to you a a BIG reminder of why you don't need him and aren't with him anymore!I feel sorr for his current girlfriend...

laughingattheslut said...

That must be so weird.

Possibly something like that would be in my future, and I cannot imagine.

I ran into an ex-fiance once. And it was sort of like what you said, and I didn't know whether I should be friendly or say f*** you.

I decided on the being friendly option, since I had gotten married earlier that year, and I was so much better looking than the girl he was with.

lisa q. said...

whoa...weirdness girl...what goes around, comes around...he'll get his and maybe she'll smarten up in the process...

Eileen Dover said...

I see my XH every now and then. It's a sad reminder of... Oh gross, I slept with him....


Just the fact I know what he looks like naked is the worst thought in the world.

Of course, I'm sure he'd say the same about me.

dmarks said...

Well, it sounds like he came out worse from the encounter, and that might count for something? :)

CarmenSinCity said...

I moved to Vegas so that I don't ever have to run into any of the exes (and there were many) that treated me like shit. hehe

Anyway, good job on getting rid of him and moving on.